Life without Anorexia

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'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

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Tuesday, May 2, 2017

Worrying about a summer body

Its getting warmer and brighter and closer to summer (in europe!), and once again that means the "Lose x kg in 10 days" titles in magazines. The summer diets and weightloss tips begin to spread and people begin talking about getting into "Bikini body shape" and losing the winter fat. Working hard and eating little to try to look good in 4 weeks time when on the beach. Conversations about good food and bad food, food that can be eaten and cant be eaten, food that makes you fat and food that makes you skinny. Conversations about calories and weightloss and bikini body shape.

Its a yearly thing that happens and for some it can be very triggering - being dragged with everyone else and thinking that you need to lose weight to be accepted while out on the beach or wearing less clothing in summer time.

But i just wanted to remind you all that you DONT need to lose weight to look good in summer or to wear a bikini on the beach or to wear a crop top or shorts. Whatever body you have is ok.

It is ok to have stretch marks and cellulite, it is ok if you have scars or bumps on your skin, its ok to have stomach rolls or to be bloated on beach. Your summer body is the body you have in summer time, just like your bikini body is the body you have while wearing a bikini.


You DONT need to chage your body for summer and you definitely DONT need to do a quick diet to lose weight for summer. They dont work and they wont help you feel happy or accept or love your body. If you think that a quick weightloss diet is the key to being happy in summer and being ok with your body then you are wrong. The only way to feel confident and happy each summer is by learning to love and accept your body just the way it is and be ok with however it looks. Your body is constantly changing, how you looked last year might not be the same as how you look this year. Just like 5 years from now your body might not look the same as it does now and that is ok as well.

Learning to accept and love your body the way it looks is important and will make you feel more confident but also not let your body stop you from doing things you want to or hinder you from living life. I know in the past (i.e 2011/2012) i said no to doing different things just because i hated how my body looked, i wanted to go to the beach and lie in the sun like everyone else but i said i didnt want to go just because i disliked my body. I found clothes i liked and wanted but they would show too much of my body and skin and i didnt want the world to see how "fat" i was so i never bought the clothes. But thats not a way to live, dont let your body stop you!! And most importantly dont compare yourself to others....

If you go to the beach or go on holiday remind yourself to not look at others and compare yourself. People look different, some people are tall some people are short, some people are lean, skinny or fat (and fat is NOT a bad thing, its just a description, it should not have a negative meaning attached to it.) Tell yourself to not be judgemental or compare yourself and not to tear yourself apart, instead focus on loving yourself and being ok in your own body!

Love your body ,accept your body. You may want to change your body, or maybe you are in the progress of gaining weight or getting stronger or something else, but accept your body for how it looks now even if your body might change over time.

One thing i dislike is when people start commenting and being judgemental against people/strangers who are very skinny... i mean you never know if that person is trying to gain weight. Weight gain and weight loss dont happen over night... and you cant judge a person by their shape or size, you dont know if they are trying to change their body for the better i.e gain weight or lose weight to better their health. So dont be judgemental towards anyone even if people might have extreme body shapes or sizes!!

Love your body and embrace your body. Others may be doing a 6 week bikini body diet, but i want YOU to instead focus on loving your body, taking care of your body and being kind to yourself so that you can ennjoy your summer and feel confident in your body no matter how you look!! Focus on health first, no FAD diets or restrictions!!







 I miss summer so much when i look at these photos :( :(

12 comments:

  1. Yes it can be triggering when it seems everything everywhere is all about losing weight, and then i do feel very self conscious about wearing less clothes and being 'judged'.
    Most of the time I'm alright with my weight now but I am anxious about looking toned enough and wanting good abs

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  2. My body does stop me from doing things, but it is different from body image problems -- it is not about how I look on the outside, so much as a deeply internalised sense of body shame, which makes me feel there is too much on my body and I feel it in my stomach, without looking, and then I don't want to leave the house, even when there are important things or things I want to do. It isn't worry that someone will see me looking a certain way, it is a feeling on the inside.
    Thank you for posting <3

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  3. It is so easily said wheen you look like this. You are beautiful, strong, slim and fit. Me, on the other hand, I am just fat ugly bitch that used to be skinny in the past but now I cannot find the strength and determination to lose weight again. I am not satisfied in my body, I hate the feeling wearing my old jeans because they do not fit anymore. I want to be happy and don't bother myself about how I look but I can't get rid of these awful thoughts. I so envy you.

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    1. These types of thoughts/comments are what will make it harder for you to love yourself... if you feel jealous or envy others instead of thinking, "that person looks good, but so do I". Instead of thinking everyone else is beautiful and you arent, change those thoughts and realise you are beautiful as well. The more negative thoughts and self hate you have the harder it will be and the worse you will feel. You dont need to be skinny or slim to be beautiful or to be happy or to love yourself. Those negative words towards yourself ARENT ok... they wont make you feel good and they wont help you love yourself. Maybe instead of trying to lose weight you just need to focus some time on loving yourself and accepting yourself... and im sure i'll get the comment "its so easy for you because you are already skinny" but self love isnt just for one size, and just because a person is skinny doesnt mean that self love is easy or comes naturally, its something ive worked extremely hard on and that is why i can love my body in all shapes and sizes... ive gone up and down in weight and changed shape the past 5 years but still i love my body regardless, and that comes from self love. Its not easy, but it is worth it. Write down things you love about yourself, get rid of old clothes, find new clothes that look good on you and clothes you feel good in. Treat your body right from the inside out, do things that make you feel good and cut out negativity or things that make you feel worse about yourself. Work on your mindset because no matter how much your body changes, unless you change your thoughts you still wont feel happy or content. You may think happiness lies in being skinny but it sure doesnt, being happy comes from making decisions that will make you happy and treating yourself right and deciding you want to be happy - not from a number on the scale or a clothing size.

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    2. ^thank you for posting this

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    3. I get both parts of this, Because I'm in the same situation. I had anorexia for 3 years but now I'm declared healthy since 5 years, though I would not say fully recovered since I still struggle sometimes, but I live a normal life. I weigh 15kg more than My goal Weight, and I have Done that the last 3 years. I'm overweight according to BMI (28) and I still try to Lise weight but it seems impossible. I don't want to fall into bad habits Again so I Really dont know What to do. I have learnt to accept My body, I have decide to not think about it, but I cant Help to Feel clumpsy and sort of not being me. I cant run as I used to Because My Knees hurt from My higher weight. It is not Fun to workout anymore Because i cant do the same exercises as i used to be able to do. I just want to reach My goal weight again to Feel more content and flexible in My body, Because now i Feel My Body stops me from living life to the fullest. I dont want to be skinny or anything, just normal weight.. And I used to Love shopping but now Its not Fun anymore Because nothing fits, or at least it does not Feel Good. What do you think I should do? I'm tired of Having to accept something I don't Feel comfortable and myself in..

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    4. Why not think of diferent, new things you could do instead of running or your previous work out routines? Join a class where you will meet new people and make new friends? Try not to hanker after your old life as your life is forever changing and you wouldn't necessarily be happier if you did mange to return to your old life. Try to think positive about your life now, about your hopes and ambitions, things you like doing now. Congratulate yourself that you now have a healthier body and embrace that.

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    5. Being overweight is just as much a sign of being unhealthy and eating unhealthily as being underweight, so I would definitely advise seeking professional help from a dietician or something.

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    6. Can you find things you *like* about your body (the things it CAN do, not the things it cannot!) :-) And meanwhile focus on goals that are not measured so directly in bodily terms? Our bodies do not naturally want to be unhealthy, and leaving them to do their own thing can sometimes be helpful. I don't know if this is the right answer, but I do very much wish you well, and I think you are wonderful for accepting it despite the challenges, and for not letting it stop you from life x
      Maybe Izzy has wiser advice....

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  4. I feel very self conscious in the summer wearing short sleeves because the veins in my arms and hands are so very visible - I`m sure people stare at me. So I tend to cover up a lot in summer and to be honest, sometimes I really dread summer coming around because of this problem. If there was something I could buy that would camaflouge my arms I would. I am hanging on to the hope that as my recovery progresses and I put on weight the veins will be less noticeable.

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    1. Maybe you dont like your veins being visible, but I think it is beautiful, and not just on skinny people, maybe not on really old people, but it has its aesthetic ;)

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  5. I get both parts of this, Because I'm in the same situation. I had anorexia for 3 years but now I'm declared healthy since 5 years, though I would not say fully recovered since I still struggle sometimes, but I live a normal life. I weigh 15kg more than My goal Weight, and I have Done that the last 3 years. I'm overweight according to BMI (28) and I still try to Lise weight but it seems impossible. I don't want to fall into bad habits Again so I Really dont know What to do. I have learnt to accept My body, I have decide to not think about it, but I cant Help to Feel clumpsy and sort of not being me. I cant run as I used to Because My Knees hurt from My higher weight. It is not Fun to workout anymore Because i cant do the same exercises as i used to be able to do. I just want to reach My goal weight again to Feel more content and flexible in My body, Because now i Feel My Body stops me from living life to the fullest. I dont want to be skinny or anything, just normal weight.. And I used to Love shopping but now Its not Fun anymore Because nothing fits, or at least it does not Feel Good. What do you think I should do? I'm tired of Having to accept something I don't Feel comfortable and myself in..

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