Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

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Saturday, March 18, 2017

Stop apologizing for who you are

"stop apologizing for who you are, for your laugh, for “looking crazy,” for the way you eat or sleep. stop being sorry for being yourself.
— alex elle


Because of my low self esteem i have always felt like saying sorry. Saying sorry to everyone who knows me, to everyone who has spent time with me. I havent wanted to take space, i have wanted to apologize for being me. Always thinking that i am the problem, that i need to apologize and need to change.

But the thing i have had to realise during my years growing up, is that i am not a problem. I am not a burden and i dont need to apologize for being me. I dont need to apologize for my personality, i dont need to apologize or feel ashamed about my interests and hobbies. I dont need to stay silent about my thoughts, choices or opinions. I dont need to shrink myself just to be "good enough" for others and for others to accept me. I need to learn that people should accept me for who i am. I think everyone has things they can improve on, for example i can be sarcastic and at times seem uninterested, and those are things i can work on with my personality. But there are certain things in my personality and my behaviour that is just who I am. I dont need to apologize for who i am and i dont need to change unless it is something that is negative... what i do need to change though is thinking that I am not good enough.

I am sure that i am not alone in the thinking and feeling that you need to shrink yourself, and thinking you arent good enough and waint to apologize for who you are. But we dont need to do that. First of all we need to accept ourselves, love ourselves and realise that we are good enough as we are. We dont need to walk around thinking that we arent good enough and that people dont like us, because that isnt the truth.

Focus on being the best version of yourself and loving yourself and allowing yourself to be who you are and taking the space you need!

Stop apologizing for who you are, what you like and what you like to do!!!

1 comment:

  1. Accepting yourself for who and what you are is definitely an age thing, and as you get older it becomes more natural to do so. You begin to longer feel you "need to conform", instead you begin to develop your own identity, borne of your hopes and desires, what you like and don`t like rather than trying to fit into the "mold" you think you ought. Your life experiences shape you and are a factor in your personality. Your knowledge increases and you learn from past mistakes. Generally you have a better idea of who you are and I think this is the case for everyone in each passing year. I am happier and more content now than I was when I was going through my teens. I am able to say what I like and dislike, voice my opinions etc.
    As you get older acceptance of yourself is so much easier as you feel more comfortable within yourself, know yourself better.
    Great post and interesting subject Izzy - really worth thinking about!

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