Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

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Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Answers - coping with self harm urges, weightloss and fitness trend, my CF

Hi Izzy, could you please do a post on how to deal with self harm? How to cope without it? How to cope with urges? Etc... Thanks so much xx

My best advice when it comes to self harm urges - or any type of urges really - is distraction. Sooner or later those strong feelings and urges will pass, its just a matter of waiting it out and distracting yourself. But also to find better and healthier coping mechanisms. Because that is what self harm is... a coping mechanism and one that doesnt work. Because eventually what you are doing now wont work to help calm the anxiety or guilt or whatever you are feeling so you end up resorting to worse or other mechanisms, so instead you need to 1) Identify what you are feeling 2) Find a better way to cope and 3) wait it out with distractions. 

Also think... if your best friend or your sister or your daughter or son were to come to you and say that they want to harm themselves what would you say, or what would you tell them to do? You would most likely hug them and sit with them and remind them that they dont need to and shouldnt self harm.... so why do the opposite with yourself? Take care of yourself like you would take care of a friend.

Over time it gets easier to stand against those urges and strong feelings - know that they will pass, you just need to have another mechanism and healthier habit to deal with those feelings. And remember they are just feelings, they cant harm you and they will pass. Also i suggest proffessional care or talking to someone if the self harm urges are very strong or lead to suicidal thoughts.

Below are some posts about self harm and better alternatives than self harm:


Hi Izzy, How do you cope with the latest 'weight loss and fitness' craze. I just about called myself recovered, as in I was eating well, a healthy weight and healthy amount of exercise. But now all my friends have jumped on the latest healthy eating and fitness craze and all saying how they need to lose weight and writing food diaries. This has made my head go crazy, just when i thought I was getting rid of the impulses and voices, any advice on how to deal with this? Ive come so far and really really don't want to go backwards

Unfortunatly this "craze" has been around for a while and many people begin with the "new year, new me" diet and the tracking. What you need to do is learn to deal with it and to not get dragged into the craze or trend. You need to remember what is best for you and your health and that isnt to start counting calories or lose weight or exercise obsessively, i know its easier said than done but you dont need to do what everyone else is doing. And sooner or later your friends will stop with the calorie counting or realise that it takes too much time or is just a "quick fix". Maybe you can remind them that quick fixes dont work and instead they should focus on making healthy and long lasting life style choices? Maybe you can suggest working out together as a healthy and fun thing to do and eating healthy and delicious meals together? That they dont need to restrict themselves like crazy? YOU can be the healthy example for them?
Most of all you need to remember what is best for you. I mean if 10 people decide to go on a diet doesnt mean you have to do that as well, you are an individual and make your own choices!
Try to inspire your friends to be healthy instead. 

Even my friends who are studying nutrition and health promotion get caught into the diets and trends, for example 2 are doing LCHF diet and didnt eat any carbs for lunch and one didnt even eat any lunch as she seems to be doing some type of fasting diet. And it does irritate me in a sense because i think those diets just do more harm than good, but also how are they going to work with nutrition and promoting health and helping others with health if they are following FAD diets. But i guess they'll have experience about those diets anyway... but i just think its silly and not long lasting lifestyle changes which is the most important if you want to see a difference.

I have some posts about this topic:



Hi Izzy - as its the 1st of February are you going to a positives/ progress post or goals for the month? Love these, especially reading of all the successes!
Hope you`re having a happy Wednesday
It didnt seem like anyone was interested or commenting haha... so kind of takes away the point of the post? But also i forget to do them... but let me know if you still want me to do the postives of the week or progress of the week posts... if no one comments then ill just skip them because theres not much point of them otherwise. They are supposed to be an inspiration for YOU and to share progress :)

Izzy, I am really really worried about you. I am reading your blog for about a year and I really like your personality, your inspiring writing, your positive thinking.. But as you have a CF, I started to read more about this disease because I was really worried if this is a dangerous disease. And I found out that people with CF live a very short time.. ca. 30 years... Maybe this is a sensitive subject for you but if you don't mind, may I ask you if the doctors told how long will you live? How did you cope with this fact? And how is your CF health going? Please tell me if you can because I am so so worried... :/

I actually dont really know what the point of this comment was - i understand you mean it in a caring sense but i dont really see it that way. I am well aware of the "limited" lifespan a person with CF may have. And i am aware of how it affects me and affects my life, and my depression/negative thoughts began at the age of 12 when i realised that i might not live as long as others. So bringing attention to it doesnt personally help me.
HOWEVER now a days there is so much help and care for patients with CF so i am sure i can live to be 50+ if i take care of myself. Which is why it is so important for me to take my medications, exercise daily, eat right as well as go to all my hospital appointments and take antibiotics and such when necessary. 
I dont write about how my CF affects me on a daily basis because it isnt interesting for anyone else, but yes... it has its complications. Stomach pain due to digestion problems (though eating a plant based diet has helped tremendously!), feeling like im breathing through a straw and at the same time have a belt around my lungs, coughing alot of blood, lots of mucus, feeling extra tired somedays because i cant breathe properly or feel short of breath. All the hospital appointments i go to, all the medication i take which can make me tired, make me feel dizzy as my heart beats faster as well as certain medication affecting my teeth and can even affect my eyesight and hearing in the longterm. I dont write about my CF but it does affect me in many ways and thats just what i deal with on a daily. I take care of myself and even if my CF health does decline over the years, it is always worse when i deal with depression or back when i was sick with my eating disorder. I am just thankful that i only have one illness to deal with on a daily basis but also that my CF health is so much better than it was before and not to mention that there are people with CF who almost live in hospital because they are so sick or are 10 years old and have to have a double lung transplant, or CF patients who end up with CF related diabetes or other CF related illnesses. So i am just thankful that its not worse and all i can do is take care of myself and keep myself healthy, i cant do anything about the fact that i have the illness, but i can do my best to keep it from getting worse hopefully!! :)





5 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for your post.. don't mind your illness, it's so good that you're grateful and feel that your life is worth living and no matter how long you live, you were happy with each and every moment after recovery :)
    Can you please make a post on how to bring your period back after recovery? Mine had been gone for a year and a half and it's freaking me out. I'm scared that it won't come back. Thank you. :')

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  2. I'm sorry, I didn't want to be rude with my comment about your illness.. I'm really sorry. So if you accept my apologize, will it be okay? I am hoping the best for your health and remember that you are a great person! :)

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    1. Dont worry, i understand that your comment came from a place of concern and worry. But i am aware of the problems related with my illness and i dont really write about it on here. However i am open to talk about if people ask, but sometimes i just dont want to be reminded about the illness or reminded about statistics or facts haah. But dont worry i dont take it personally, i understand that you were just curious :)

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  3. I think it would be a shame not to do the progress/goal posts but can understand why if no one joins in with them. The first one went so well too!
    I found them very inspiring personally but did notice that the last one remained rather quiet. oh well!

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  4. I loved your positives of the week/ month/ day, they really helped me to focus on mine too and stop concentrating on the tough things in life! It's always uplifting to hear people happy :D

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