Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

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Thursday, December 15, 2016

Life is more than a numbers game

In life, there seems to be this constant number comparing game. First off, people are judged and graded on numbers. Their height, their weight, the grades, the FB friends, their instagram followers..... And then we compare ourselves with others. We put our worth in  all these numbers, these - if im honest - pathetic and meaningless numbers.

Why do we compare our weight to others ? Why do we always want to have the lowest weight. For example before when i was starting to develop my ED, one of my friends who is alot shorter than me said she weighed 44kg or something, and suddenly i started to panic i weighed soemthing like Xkg, but i was like 7-10cm taller than her, but that didnt matter because i weighed more than her....
  Your weight is just your body mass, what your muscles, organs, bones, fat, hair etc weigh. Nothing more, and it should NOT be  a comparing game to others. Because everyone has a different weight. You could have the exact same weight as someone but look completely different. And there shouldnt be a fight to have the lowest number.

And then there is the comparing of social media followers, and i am one of those who compares themselves with others. I dont compare myself with others physically, or the way we look... but sometimes i guess i put my worth in social media, which is a bad thing.
   Its easy to look at someone who has 1000 facebook friends and 100 thousand instagram followers and start thinking, that person is better than me. More worthy than me.
  Its stupid, but just like with comparing your body to others, its hard to stop.

But what I, and others need to realise is that they are just meaningless numbers.Just because a person has 100 thousand followers and you only have 1000, that doesnt make the other person better than you. It just means that others have found that persons site/page/account.

Sometimes i can get caught up with my blog and other bigger blogs. I do have thousands of readers everyday and lots of followers, but still i can look at other bigger blogs and think, i want that.
  But at the same time i think, do ireally want that? It would actually scare me if i had a really big blog with thousands of followers and thousands more readers. I mean ive already had my pictures stolen for different sites, ive had my pictures stolen and used on facebook profiles, ive had my story stolen as well.... so its not all fun & games on the internet and blogging. And i guess the mean comments which i dont get so often, but have gotten. Those would most probably increase.
    Im sure if i wanted a bigger blog, it would happen i would just have to do better advertising. But still there are pros and cons to everything!

But back to the topic. We need to stop putting our worth in numbers.... in our weight, school grades, followers etc Its not those things that make you happy, or give you worth. I mean just because someone has thousands of followers on IG, that doesnt necessarily make them happy, or give them a better life than you. And that person who has hundreds of friends on FB, How many friends do they actually in real life?


And on a side note, also its easy to compare yourself in the physical sense of, how long/far/fast you can run or how heavy you can lift, compared to others. But this is NOT good either. Just because someone can run 10km in 40 minutes and you run it in 55 minutes, that doesnt make you any less than them. It just means their faster, you are doing YOUR best. And you dont need to compete with anyone else (unless you're in a race or competition :)). Just do YOUR best, and dont worry about what otehrs are or can do!!!

3 comments:

  1. Great post and the message is sooo important!!! We need to STOP comparing ourselves to others and competing in vapid and superficial things like weights or facebook friends. Especially since everybody else's life seems so much more interesting, adventurous and happier on fb and IG than your own you have to keep in mind that people would mostly post the cool stuff, like holiday pics from paradise-like beaches or other "highlights" of their lives, and of course only pictures in which they look their best (and/or photoshopped to hell and back). But the live happens out there without a selfiestick and Photoshop, and it's beautiful and unfiltered and real!!

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  2. I really want to thank you for this blog Izzie. I can't stress enough how much it has helped and motivated me to recover, and when I first started I would never have been able to maintain it if i hadn't found your blog. Your positive outlook has helped me to view the world in a positive way as well and it prompted me to start a diary, which has really helped me.

    Thank you so much, and i hope you've had a great week! xx

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  3. I say this all the time, but man, I am SO glad that I grew up right before social media became a "thing". I think I was 23 maybe when facebook began, and it was a couple years more before I joined. I honestly do not understand the obsession with it, IG, snapchat, etc. It all seems like such a waste of time and completely artificial to be concerned about followers.... but I had the benefit of knowing what life was like without those things. I wonder if I would have been sucked up into it with everyone else if I had been a teenager when it came out. I'm betting yes. As it stands today, I don't have any of those accounts (although I will sometimes look at other people's IG stuff... but even that gets boring very quickly), except for facebook, which I use maybe 4 times a year, and every time I do I look for people I can delete. I have no desire for scads of friends. If I don't instantly know who someone is on my list, off they go because clearly they are not that important or close to me.

    Izzy, do you have an opinion on WHY this obsession with social media has become SO prevalent? Is it driven by fame and recognition? Money? Insecurity? Self-obsession? Has it just become a cultural norm that no one questions? It is such a gigantic time-suck away from REAL life, I just don't get it. WHY do people care more about thousands of anonymous "friends" instead of a small circle of real-life ones? What do people actually GET from living their lives publicly, on social media? My facebook is private, I can't even imagine having the whole world able to see my life, but so many people actually want that... I'm uncomfortable just knowing my small list of friends are able to see a slice of my life (hence why I never post anything), but I like being able to check in on them once in a while. Plus I like having a place to store my pictures where certain people can see them. Is that what drives it all? Wanting people to see you? (Not you in particular, you in a general sense). Not wanting to be overlooked or forgotten? Which is just ego... social media is driven by ego, as far as I can tell, but I really want to see an opinion from someone who actually does use all those platforms, and you seem to have some objectivity about it, can see both sides, so please enlighten me!

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