Life without Anorexia
My motto is 'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'
My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.
I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.
I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!
If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Monday, November 7, 2016
No one is coming to save you - tattoo advice and my experience (if you are thinking about getting a tattoo)
If you follow me on any of my other social media accounts you may already have seen, but on Friday i went and got a new tattoo. Strange that my blog, the social media account i love and am the most open and sharing, is the account i share this with last. But i guess its just that i didnt feel like sharing it at all. But i guess i wanted to write about my tattoo experience (for the 5th time!), incase anyone is considering getting a tattoo.
The tattoo idea i have had for a while is the words "no one is coming to save you". I have written a post about what it means to me and why i wanted this quote tattooed, HERE. But i will write a little about it here as well.
I know that when you read the quote it can seem cheesey or strange, but that doesnt matter to me. When i first got the idea about a new tattoo i wanted the quote on the inside of my forearm (is there a word for that skin area?!), but after a few weeks of that idea i realised it wouldnt be a good idea. The tattoo would have far too much meaning and be far too personal to have ti somewhere which would be seen 70% of the time. I wanted a place where i would see it and i could also hide it, and as i have considered getting a leg tattoo for a while as well, it became clear that i should have it on my leg. And just the right height so that its only if i am wearing short shorts or in a bikini or such that it will be seen - just the way i want it.
So why did i choose the quote?
Not because i dont think there is help out there or because i think i am alone. I know there is support and people who can help and WILL help. But one thing i have learnt from my experiences and my life is that if you want something to happen YOU have to make it happen. My tattoo is a reminder of what i have been through and that it was ME who choose recovery and ME who fought my way to health. And if i ever end up with depression again, it will be ME who pulls myself out of it again as well. I can not sit and wait for things to get better or sit and hope and wish and dream, but to take action and make life great. But it also has with my CF as well, it is a chronic illness so even if i secretly wish that gene therapy would work, at the moment it would not work on the gene mutations i have.
From the outside the tattoo looks negative, and it might look like i have 50kg baggage with me, (which i do, hahahah!). But for me it is a positive quote... it is reminding me of my own strength, of my own capability. There are people out there who can and will help if i reach out for it, for example if i am ever in a tough situation whether its school, looking for apartments, mental health, i know that my family are there for me. But in the end, it would be about ME reaching out for help and not sitting and waiting for someone to miracously help me. So its a positive quote and a positive reminder. And well, i dont really care what people think either hahaha. My tattoos are for my sake and because they mean something to me and not because i want attention or because i care what people think.
I remember being 12 when i first wanted a tattoo and i told my mum that when i was 16 i would get my first tattoo, and that is exactly what i did hahaha. Who knew that in 4 years i would have 5 tattoos, but i dont regret a single one of them!!
So... onto the whole tattoo process which might be of more interest to you?
So first off, i have had this quote in my mind for the past year or so, but the position of the tattoo idea has changed, which is a good thing. And also the reason why i tell people to always wait atleast 3 months when they first get a tattoo idea becuase it can change... and i dont know how many times i have gotten a tattoo idea but then after 2 weeks realised i didnt think it was so great and glad ididnt spontaneously get a tattoo. I always tell anyone who is thinking about getting a tattoo to 1) Know how you want the tattoo (even if it might not look exactly the same when the tattoo is done, unless you bring an exact drawing/stencil), know where you want it and then picture that tattoo on your skin everyday for the next 3 months (or print out the picture and pin it somewhere so that you see it everyday.) Do you get tired of the picture? Does the idea change? Does the position of the tattoo change? etc
For me personally, each time i see my tattoos i smile and i personally think they are the best part of me. Somedays i can sit and just look at my freedom tattoo and smile and love it. I believe THAT is how it should feel when you know that your tattoos are right.
Then i did my research... where was the best tattoo parlous in Gothenburg, or should i wait until i was in Stockholm during Christmas. However i found a place which had alot of good recensions and also used vegan ink (however from what i understand is that most good tattoo parlours use vegan ink so most places it shouldnt be a problem, but ask just incase. Or ask for the ingredients list and then do your google research!!). So i went there and booked a time and was given a tattoo time for a week later. And i think its great that it can take a few days or weeks from the time you book the tattoo until you actually do it. Because then you realise that it is actually going to happen... you begin to think, do i really want the tattoo? Is it the right choice? The right place on my body? etc So that you can tihnk about all the pros and cons before you get your tattoo done. If you have more cons or lots of regrets or "i shouldnt do this" then cancel your tattoo time. Remember that the ink will be there forever and even if you can get it removed its supposed to be very painful!!
So, then i showed up to my appointment on Friday and i had already emailed the tattoo artist my text and my idea, and my original idea was to have the text upside down, so that i could read it from my own angle.
The tattoo artist advised me not to do that and that 99% of people who do texts that are upside down end up regretting it.
However after looking at the stencil of the text upside down and the right way i realised that she was right. My idea of having the text upside down didnt look good at all, so i can say i am so thankful that she pointed that out. And that is a sign of a good tattoo artist... because in all honesty she could have just put the stencil on my skin, tattooed it and then i would leave maybe regretting it... who knows.
But just like with my previous tattoo with the text on my ribcage i had thought it would be smaller but the tattoo artist pointed out that it was too much text for it to be a small tattoo and that in the futue the tattoo ink sort of "spreads out" so if the tattoo is too small it would just look like a black clump. So i listened to his advice and i love that the tattoo text is bigger than i had first imagined!
So, it can be good to listen to your tattoo artist if they have any suggestions. They know better and they have been working with tattoos for years (most likely) and they will know what looks good or what doesnt. Its not easy to think about every aspect before getting a tattoo, so sometimes the original idea gets changed which can be a good thing!
Finally.... pain and time wise?
It didnt hurt at all, most likely because i have fat and muscle on my leg, compared to on my ribcage where it is just thin skin and bone. But also i have a very high pain tolerance. But i could sit there and talk and take photos and it was no problem at all. However the area goes numb after a while so it isnt so bad. I can say that my dream catcher on my rib cage has been the most painful but that was because it was such thin skin and also because it took about 2 hours to do and all the other tattoos have taken between 20-40 minutes.
Price wise? If you go to a good tattoo artist it will be expensive. Just accept that.
Also i remember that i am paying an artist, they need to be paid and just like when you buy a painting, you pay the artist for their creativity and its the same with tattoos.
Every tattoo parlour has a different price range, but i think its good that its so expensive because that means that you save up over time and give syou more time to think about the tattoo idea!
And the healing time?
This tattoo hasnt hurt during the tattoo process or afterwards and hasnt been itchy either.
Ive put cream on the tattoo 3-5 times a day and it seems to be healing well!
With my dream catcher tattoo there was an unbareable itch and lots of scabs... so many times i just wanted to itch my tattoo like crazy but i knew that if i did that then i would ruin the tatoo and healing process. So if you get a big tattoo and on an area where there is alot of hear, then be prepared for lots of itching and going crazy by not being able to scratch! hahah
So... that is my tattoo experience this time and if you have any questions just let me know :)
But remember, dont spontaneously tatoo (unless you really want to!), do your research and dont regret your tatttoos... life is to short for that!!!