Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

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Sunday, June 12, 2016

It is ok to struggle and your feelings are not invalid

Be kind to yourself. Stop telling yourself that whatever you are struggling with “should” be easy. If something is hard for you, it is hard for you. There are probably Reasons, though those may just be how you are wired. Acknowledge these things. When you finish something hard, be proud! Celebrate a little.

And really, just stop saying “should” to yourself about your thoughts and feelings in any context. You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do. Stop beating yourself up for who and what you are right now–it isn’t productive. Focus on moving forward.


-Source unknown.



Sometimes it is easy to think that you "should" feel a certain way regarding different things. Or thinking, "why do i find this easy when others struggle with this," or "why do i struggle with this when it is so easy for others". But dont invlalidate your feelings, you feel the way you do. Keep fighting and know that different people struggle with different things but you can get through them. Keep fighting and know that things will get better, and also stop thinking that you "should" be somewhere in your life. Or just because everyone else has something in life, or everyone else your age has completed something in their life doesnt mean that you have to be at the same stage or have completed the same things. You do you, and know that life is different for everyone. People have different time lines and different goals and takes different amounts of time to reach different stages in life :)


2 comments:

  1. Hello Izzy,

    Thank you for writing your blog it has helped a lot! I have anorexia and go outpatient, however my nutritionist said since I keep dropping even though I've been trying somewhat I need to go inpatient. Ever since she said that my ED voice is screaming and anxiety is through the roof. I feel like I'm short of breath and started using a calculator again which I haven't done for about a month now. It feels like it's getting worse and I don't know what to do because I don't know how soon I'll be admitted. It feels like I need to lose more while I still can and its very convincing. I'm not sure how to fight it because it's winning right now. Any advice you could give would be amazing.
    I'm also supposed to go to a vocal workshop tomorrow and am worried I won't be able to eat enough to have energy to sing. Please help

    thank you

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  2. This post is so apt. When I think back to a few months ago recovery seemed insurmountable - the size of the meal plan, the foods I had to eat, just reading it made me think "there is no way I can do this". And it was hard, very hard. But with each day it became a little easier until all of a sudden a month had passed and I realised I was progressing! If I had stuck to the thoughts that "other people manage to do this why can`t I" I doubt I would have got very far, I just had to keep fighting and keep trying. I had to change my behaviours to change my thoughts, and you know - it worked! It may have taken me x amount of time, but I got there.

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