Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

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Saturday, June 4, 2016

Being an introvert and making new friends


Hey Izzy, I have a big problem. I don't have any friends. I am also recovering from anorexia and it is sooo hard for me :(( it would be better with some friends beside me but I am so shy and not so communicative... I want to get some friends, many nights I spend crying because I feel so lonely:'(
Do you have a lot of friends? How did you become so famous and popular? I am also very unpopular on social media and this hurts me so much.. Do you have any advice how to become more confident and how to get maybe just one friend? Thanks for everything.


Might be good to actually add the question as well ^_^

I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling this way, but i am the exact same. I am not fmaous or popular, infact i made no friends during my course at university this term as i am so shy and withdrawn/dont communicate. However i am rather good at being independant so i havent felt lonely. But the best thing you can do is try to communicate, or maybe start a hobby or interest where you can meet new people and try to talk with people there? And then you know that you will share the same interests or hobbies? It can be scary to talk to new people, but sometimes you just have to do it... sometimes being an introvert and shy makes you seem like you dont want to talk with others so other people wont try to talk to you. So instead you have to be the first one to communicate with others.


I have these posts which might help you:

http://www.lifewithoutanorexia.com/2016/02/dealing-with-lonliness-and-being.html

http://www.lifewithoutanorexia.com/2014/12/beginning-to-socialize-againmaking.html


I know how tough it is to not have friends and feel lonely, but it wont be that way forever, you will make friends sometime!!! Just try to interact with others :)

And with social media... please dont get caught up in numbers. Followers and likes dont mean so much, half of it is just robots anyway. Post on social media because you want to not because you want to have X followers or X likes. Dont compare yourself to others and not online either, dont compare followers or likes or pictures, instead do your thing and remmeber social media isnt real life!! It is better to put energy on your real life and making real friends than to try to focus on getting followers and likes, as that wont get you far in life!! Try to stay positive and dare to step outside of your comfort zone to make new friends/talk to new people :)




(sorry for posting that.... but something i can personally relate to as i often get the feeling that i am annoying people or people dislike me but pretend they dont.... Low self esteem issues :( But the positive, i am working on it and learning to understand that people actually like me for me and arent pretending!)

1 comment:

  1. I know this isn't the same as going out and actually meeting people but have you thought about having a pen friend? It is a good way of getting to know someone and could perhaps ease you into feeling more comfortable about communicating with others.
    You could also try joining a friendship/hobby group where you will meet people with similar interests to yourself, or just a pop in coffee morning session. You will no doubt find details of such groups online or at your local library - my library actually holds a hobby group once a week and they serve tea/coffee, so maybe yours does too?
    The hardest part is making the first step, once you have done that it gets so much easier. Good luck :)

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