Hey Izzy, I have a big problem. I don't have any friends. I am also recovering from anorexia and it is sooo hard for me :(( it would be better with some friends beside me but I am so shy and not so communicative... I want to get some friends, many nights I spend crying because I feel so lonely:'(
Do you have a lot of friends? How did you become so famous and popular? I am also very unpopular on social media and this hurts me so much.. Do you have any advice how to become more confident and how to get maybe just one friend? Thanks for everything.
Do you have a lot of friends? How did you become so famous and popular? I am also very unpopular on social media and this hurts me so much.. Do you have any advice how to become more confident and how to get maybe just one friend? Thanks for everything.
Might be good to actually add the question as well ^_^
I have these posts which might help you:
http://www.lifewithoutanorexia.com/2016/02/dealing-with-lonliness-and-being.html
http://www.lifewithoutanorexia.com/2014/12/beginning-to-socialize-againmaking.html
I know how tough it is to not have friends and feel lonely, but it wont be that way forever, you will make friends sometime!!! Just try to interact with others :)
And with social media... please dont get caught up in numbers. Followers and likes dont mean so much, half of it is just robots anyway. Post on social media because you want to not because you want to have X followers or X likes. Dont compare yourself to others and not online either, dont compare followers or likes or pictures, instead do your thing and remmeber social media isnt real life!! It is better to put energy on your real life and making real friends than to try to focus on getting followers and likes, as that wont get you far in life!! Try to stay positive and dare to step outside of your comfort zone to make new friends/talk to new people :)



(sorry for posting that.... but something i can personally relate to as i often get the feeling that i am annoying people or people dislike me but pretend they dont.... Low self esteem issues :( But the positive, i am working on it and learning to understand that people actually like me for me and arent pretending!)
I know this isn't the same as going out and actually meeting people but have you thought about having a pen friend? It is a good way of getting to know someone and could perhaps ease you into feeling more comfortable about communicating with others.
ReplyDeleteYou could also try joining a friendship/hobby group where you will meet people with similar interests to yourself, or just a pop in coffee morning session. You will no doubt find details of such groups online or at your local library - my library actually holds a hobby group once a week and they serve tea/coffee, so maybe yours does too?
The hardest part is making the first step, once you have done that it gets so much easier. Good luck :)