Life without Anorexia
My motto is 'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'
My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.
I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.
I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!
If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Tuesday, May 17, 2016
Be your own "body goals" and "woman/man crush Wednesday"
One thing which i am very tired of online is the idolizing of other peoples bodies and the continuous comparing that people do with one another.
There are so many comments of "you look perfect, i wish i looked like you", "wow body goals", "you have the perfect body" etc and i mean its fine to give one another compliments. And usually when you post something online - especially pictures - you are looking for feedback/response/comments. You want people to comment and hopefully say nice things, or you just want to show off your body. And there is nothing wrong with people posting pictures of themselves if they want to... i mean i post pictures of myself on my blog, and you cant stop people from doing that, instead you need to change your own thoughts regarding other peoples pictures.
Instead of thinking "wow she is so perfect, i wish i looked like her", think "Wow she looks great/amazing and so do I". Or "Wow she/he has a great body, but so do I!"
People look different and you will never look like someone else no matter how hard you try, and if all your focus is on chaging your body you will never reach that place where you are satisfied. I have followed people for several years and i dont think i have ever seen them write that they love their body or are happy with how they look, because they just spend all their time trying to change their body. There is always something they need to change... but of course maybe they do love their body and just striving for progress. But some people it just seems like the "Journey for the perfect body" is an endless one because they are never satisfied.
You need to learn to love yourself NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK. Forget weight and size and shape, just try to love YOURSELF. If you take care of your body and your mind, if you feed your body right and do things that you love and make you happy it is much easier to love yourself and love your body. But if all your thoughts are negative, if you always think everyone looks better than you then it is hard to love yourself.
Distance yourself from things that trigger you, such as maybe magazines or certain clothing stores or certain accounts online. Instead look in the mirror and decide to say positive things about yourself. Put up small quotes and reminders that you are beautiful in the bathroom mirror or maybe on the fridge door or in your journal/calender. Reminders that you are beautiful doesnt matter if you need to gain or lose weight, you need to learn to love yourself.
(Also guys as well!! Guys can have just as low body confidence/self esteem as girls... so i always get so irritated when it just says "girls" how about encourage people and not just females...)
Decide to be your own "Body goals" or your own "Healthy goals" and own inspiration. Be your own woman/man crush Wednesday ;) (If you didnt know that is some type of Instagram weekly trend thing... hahaha)
Self love comes from the inside and it begins with one ACCEPTING AND EMBRACING your 'flaws'. They arent flaws and most of the time they seem worse to you than what they actually are, but embrace those and learn to let go and not let those control you.
Second, be kind to yourself and say nice things to yourself. If you see someone else who looks great, compliment them and compliment yourself as well. I.e she looks great in that top, and i also look great in my outifit today. Might seem strange and "wrong", but it really isnt. Be kind to yourself, compliment yourself as well and stop thinking that everyone looks better than you. People look different and some people according to socieities standards are "the typical beauty" but we are all beautiful in our own way. Some people rock the long blande hair and others rock the short black hair. Some people look awesome in light pink and white and others look/feel best in the dark and baggy clothes, some people look/feel best in short or tighter clothes and others look/feel best in more formal clothes... that is ok and look great in their own way!
I know it isnt easy to love yourself, but it is a progress and decide that you want to love yourself and your body. Stop waiting until you look a certain way or have reached a certain weight or size to begin to be happy in your body, instead start now. Learn to love yourself and your body and also not let your body control your feelings i.e if it changes it shouldnt matter, because your body doesnt control you or define you.
Be happy in yourself and your body and treat your body right! You only have one body and no matter how much you change your body, unless you change your thoughts you will never be happy so maybe start with your mind and thoughts!!!