When you feel the urge to self harm/compensate with exercise/purge

When you start feeling anxious or panicky and want to resort to bad behaviour like self harming, purging or exercising (in a way to burn calories/compromise for eating), then

  Remind yourself that eating is important & essential.

Its ok if you ate more than normal, or if you ate a fear food. You need to give your body energy. To fuel yourself. Eating is ok, its healthy and part of living. Ask yourself, why do i need to self harm/Purge/exercise etc ? What good will it do to me? How will i feel afterwards? What will happen if i dont resort to my bad behaviour? What will happen then?
   Nothing bad will happen. It may feel like you are drowning in anxiety, that the anxiety will literally kill you - but it wont. Infact, you need to be strong and fight the anxiety, to let it run its course. I know its awful, i knowt he anxiety can last a while.... but instead, fight it.
   Be strong enough to do something else. Read a book, write, paint, call a friend, take a shower etc... calm yourself down, dont let the anxiety or your ED control you.
  If you feel like you have/are going to suddenly gain loads of weight becaues of eating, that is not the case. Trust me. There is research, facts and proof about this. You need to eat to survive, and eating a meal.. or eating 6 meals in a day that wont make you gain weight. So you dont need to exercise, you dont need to purge, you dont need to self harm.. instead, find another way to cope.

Another way of coping when those feelings begin to kick in is to write down the reasons why you want to/need to recover. All the things you will gain with recovering from your ED. Like freedom, happiness, health, food etc etc
    

You have to remember to be kind to yourself - this might be something you have almost forgotten as you are so used to punishing yourself in some form or another. But stay calm and instead of punishing yourself for eating, instead be kind to yourself - praise and reward yourself. Because you have done a good thing. You have gone against your ED. And you are stronger now... boost yourself up instead of brining yourself down. Do something nice for yourself.
   See eating as a good thing, and give yourself praise afterwards instead of it just being riddled with anxiety and guilt and bad tendencies.
  
Hopefully these tips help a little - but the most important is to be strong. Because it is tough to go against the voice which controls you - but instead take control!!! Because you can!!