But then it is also important to be realistic, that everything we do cant always make us happy. I mean, to get the dream job i want means studying for many hours and going to school for years and writing essays that dont exactly make my life "rainbows and unicorns" (i.e happy), and even when i do have a job it might mean some rough days and smaller jobs to eventually reach the main goal of the dream job. You dont exactly go from no job experience to business manager at a huge business, but its a process of working yourself up and that requires some smaller jobs which might not be so fun... but then you know the goal and finish will lead to happiness.
For example, paying bills doesnt exactly make me happy, but then i think... 1) Its pretty great that i actually have money to afford these things and 2) When i have paid my bills i know that i will have my phone network, i'll be able to get all my medication from the pharmacy, be able to go to the gym etc etc So the result will make me happy.
Just like with cleaning the house or doing laundry or having to clean the bathroom... those things dont necessary add so much joy and happiness to my life when doing them, but the result... a clean house and clean clothes, thats worth it and THAT makes me happy.
The examples could go on and on, but it is important to know that some things you "just have to do" even if they arent so much fun. I mean if we only did things that made us happy i dont know how productive society would be. But in the sort of overall life, it is important to know that you what you are doing will lead to happiness or that you atleast get some joy from what you have done or accomplished. For example if i do things which i dont like doing or have to do "Just because", then afterwords i can feel very proud that i did do them despite not wanting to. And that is a reward/hapiness as well. Happiness should be the goal in some form or another.
I am writing this post because in recovery you have to do things that dont make you "happy", but in the end hopefully it will. But you just have to do them. I mean if you were to live by, "do what makes you happy", you would only really do what your eating disorder wants you to do i.e what makes your eating disorder happy and not you. Because sure, you can spend hours exercising each day and eating minimal and say that makes you happy, but all it does is make your eating disorder "happy" and give you less anxiety which makes it easier for 'you', but its not actual happiness for YOU. Bbut if you fight your eating disorder, do all those things that give you anxiety and face your fears, then the result will be happiness for YOU - if you work on actually feeling happy and allowing yourself to be happy.
Sometimes we just have to do things and know that the result will make us happy, but we can always add smaller bits of happiness into our life.... such as being with family and friends, listening to good music, eating good food, cuddling with a pet, writing, exercising, meditation, painting or colouring etc etc those things can add happiness to an otherwise grey day.