Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

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Wednesday, February 17, 2016

Learn to communicate how you are feeling, and remember that you are not alone

Communicate. That’s the biggest and best first thing you can ever do. Whether it be with a teacher, sibling, friend, parent or even a counselor. Being able to communicate is the first step to your life getting better. It doesn’t have to be even talking; it can be a letter or email or text…let people know what’s going on in your life, your thoughts and emotions. 
People can and will help you, you just need to search them out. Oh and one last thing, never EVER let someone bring you down. You’re you, and you is always good enough. Never stray from who you are because you never know who will come along and want and love “you”.
— Marc M. (Brampton, ON, Canada)






Communicating feelings and emotions, what is on my mind is not something that comes easy to me. Infact the only real way i can communicate how i feel is via my blog, and i know that people who know me personally sometimes check on my blog to see how i am feeling and how i am doing. Most likely more now that i have moved and they dont see me everyday. That used to bother me... it felt like they were invading my privacy... somehow its easier to write how i feel and know that it is "strangers" reading than have to know that my sister, boyfriend or mum knows how i feel. Its strange, but i guess that is why therapy can be so helpful for people... they dont have to sit across from someone they know and talk about everything in their mind, they can talk to a stranger and they feel less judged, maybe. Now i have learnt to not get angry or irritated if i find out that someone who knows me has read my blog, of course it does hinder me from writing everything i want to write on here. But then i also need to realise that i cant write everthing out online either, instead having a filter and knowing who my audience is, is what makes me write what i do. Sometimes i write huge long posts about how i feel, what is on my mind but those posts never make the publish list, and other times i write a whole long post only to go back and delete the sections which i think are unappropriate or i know that it could be triggering or maybe i dont want people who know me to know that that is how i feel. However i am always honest on my blog, my blog is still my favourite place to write my thoughts and how i feel and also i feel like i have made a bond with so many of you so i am always honest on here - for my own sake. I would never sit here and write that i am happy when infact i was feeling terrible, then i would either not write at all or just mention that i wasnt feeling so great. But having that honesty is important, because it is also a way for me to be honest to myself. To work through my thoughts, communicate them and then learn from them..... somtimes i write posts and while writing i begin writing advice to myself almost, realising what i need to do to change!! haha,

In life it is important to learn to communicate with people.... with family, friends, partners, employeers etc Learn to express yourself, of course that doesnt meant that you have to tell your employeer everything that is awful about him and the job but that you still want a raise. But learning to communicate the important things and know that you arent alone, that there is always someone there for you. Whether its via a phone call to a friend or family, or calling a hotline to talk to someone or using an online site where you can talk to people who will help you, there is always someone there for you, and you need to learn to be able to communicate.... in your own way.

I might not talk about whats on my mind, but i can write and that works for me. And you need to find what works for you, because if there is one thing i have learnt in life, that is that you cant keep everything bottled up inside... otherwise sooner or later you will burst.

1 comment:

  1. I find personally that writing helps me get my thoughts straight - and often just writing about what is bothering me or how I feel comes up with a solution ...or makes me feel better about things at least. sometimes its not easy to put into words and talk about how you feel but putting your thoughts down on paper can work better.
    when I`ve plucked up the courage to actually talk about things the outcome is never as bad as I imagined it would be - and I always feel heaps better for having done so.
    people don`t automatically know whats bothering you and can`t really accurately guess how you are feeling so its important that you take that leap, whether its by talking or writing.
    And I totally agree with you Izzy, that you just cannot keep things bottled up.

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