Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

I am a generally happy girl who loves running, going to the gym and eating food!! Though my life has been very different.
I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia & purging tendencies & over exercising. I was depressed and self harmed. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
After alot of struggles, lots of ups and downs, suicide attempts, tears, anxiety, panic and never thinking i would be healthy.
I am now declared healthy from anorexia nervosia.

I have been blogging for 4 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I am happy and healthy and living my life. Going to school, meeting friends and trying to find myself in this world.

I write about my daily life, but also try to write posts about how it was when i was sick, advice and tips.
I am open and friendly, so dont be scared about writing a post or sending me an email at:


Thursday, January 28, 2016

What not to say to someone in recovery

What NOT to Say When Someone You Love is in Recovery 

1. “You look healthy; you must be feeling better!” “You’re starting to gain weight again.”
 or “You’d look much better with some meat on your bones.”
It’s best not to comment on weight or appearance at all, even if it is well-intentioned. People with
eating disorders may equate “looking healthy” with “looking fat,” and this comment could be
upsetting for them. Furthermore, weight gain doesn’t always imply that they are recovered or
“better.” Full recovery takes quite some time, so even if they look recovered, they may still be
struggling mentally or emotionally. They may actually need additional support during this time as
they adjust to the changes in their body and behavior.

2. “But you’re so thin! Why would you need to lose weight?”
Eating disorders are mental illnesses. Furthermore, this person may have a distorted body image
and aren’t able to see what you see.

3. “If you’d just eat ______, you’d feel better!”
Eating disorders are not just about food. They are complicated mental illnesses, and giving
simplistic solutions can undermine a person’s struggle.

4. “Should you really be eating that?” or “Wow, you ate a lot today!”
People with eating disorders are often self-conscious about their food choices. Don’t shame them
for eating something you consider “unhealthy,” as they may already have reservations about eating
these foods as part of their treatment plan. These comments may trigger them.

5. “I don’t know how you do it—I could never go without eating for that long.”
Eating disorders are not about willpower, they are serious mental illnesses.

6. Comments about your own weight loss or talking about needing to lose weight yourself.
This can be triggering or upsetting for someone with an eating disorder. They might compare their
body size or eating habits to yours, and talking about how much weight you need to lose can
trigger them into using eating disorder behaviors again.

7. “Just snap out of it!” or “Just eat!”
If it were this easy, most people would have “snapped out of it” a long time ago. Be patient and try
to understand the challenges your friend is facing.

8. “Wow, if you think you’re fat then you must think I’m really fat.”
A person’s eating disorder is about him/herself, not you.