Life without Anorexia

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'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

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Tuesday, January 26, 2016

People express concern and love in different ways

It’s easy to feel uncared for when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you need. And it’s so hard not to internalize that silence as a reflection on your worth. But the truth is that the way other people operate is not about you. Most people are so caught up in their own responsibilities, struggles, and anxiety that the thought of asking someone else how they’re doing doesn’t even cross their mind. They aren’t inherently bad or uncaring — they’re just busy and self-focused. And that’s okay. It’s not evidence of some fundamental failing on your part. It doesn’t make you unloveable or invisible. It just means that those people aren’t very good at looking beyond their own world. But the fact that you are — that despite the darkness you feel, you have the ability to share your love and light with others — is a strength. Your work isn’t to change who you are; it’s to find people who are able to give you the connection you need. Because despite what you feel, you are not too much. You are not too sensitive or too needy. You are thoughtful and empathetic. You are compassionate and kind. And with or without anyone’s acknowledgment or affection, you are enough.
— Daniell Koepke



I think this is an important reminder - for everyone. Many people dont realise that people show affection and care in different ways... some might not be able to say "i love you", but they can do small, kind gestures which show their love.
Some might not be able to hug you when you are sad, but they can be there to listen to you and to make sure you are ok.
Some might not show anger by screaming and letting their anger show, some might hide it in silence and internalize the anger.
Most people dont ask anyone "how they are doing", mostly because they forget... caught up in their own problems and sometimes because they just dont care. They dont want to hear about someone elses problems so they rather not ask. But that doesnt mean that people dont care... if its the first thing, where people are so caught up in their own problems, then it doesnt mean that they dont care about you or your problems, just that they dont realise others are suffering or struggling as well. But you are allowed to talk about your problems, everyone is, but it is important to remember that everyone has their own struggles in some form or another.

I think it is important for everyone to take time to stop and ask others how they are doing.... because sometimes that is all another person needs. To have someone ask if they are ok, have someone show they care in some form or another.... sometimes just asking someone if they are ok can make a huge difference to another person. Or having someone listen to them..... we all have our daily struggles, some big, some small.... but knowing that others care or others want to help can make things alot easier!!


Sometimes you will be suprised when you truly ask how someone is or if they want to talk, and you find out about things that they never would have said otherwise... for me personally, sometimes it has made me feel guilty for not asking before. I was stuck in my own struggles, but for me personally i think it is so important to reach out to others and ask how they are doing... just to show that i am there for them, and just to be someone to listen and give advice if needed, because sometimes that is all a person needs.

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  1. This is so true but something I think we have all been guilty of at one time or another. It doesn't take much to smile at someone and ask how they are - but sadly I don`t think we do it enough.
    wise words which deserve to be remembered.

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    1. Yes exactly.. we all get caught up in our own problems and that's normal. .. but sometimes just a smile and actual concern for someone else can make a big difference! !

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