Life without Anorexia
My motto is 'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'
My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.
I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.
I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!
If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Sunday, January 24, 2016
Feeling lonely and comparing yourself to people's online life
A few days ago I read a post on a girls Instagram account where she wrote about her new years eve.How she regretted checking social media on New Years eve because all she saw was people happy faces, and champagne and party, family and food. Everyone seemed to be having such a good time, and for the 10th year in a row she was at home on her own. Not that she didn’t want ot celebrate new years eve with friends, but that she didn’t have so many friends. She had pushed them away during all her years as sick, and she regretted it, but most of all she regretted how social media was making her feel so awful and so lonely.
And you know what, I have been there before and I am sure some of my readers might recognize that…. Checking in on social media, seeing everyone else so happy and doing fun things and you are stuck at home and wondering what you are doing with your life. During New Years even 2013 I was going to celebrate with a friend but the plans changed and I ended up being at home on my own during the 00.00 as my parents were away and my sister was with friends. And I remember checking Instagram and facebook and thinking, I hate this. This is not how it should be. I felt so incredibly lonely and felt like life wasn’t really worth it….. I compared my life to others… but most importantly, I compared my life to peoples online life. The online life doesn’t show the whole deal… I mean how many people write about or post photos when they are just lying in bed and watching Netflix for 10 hours straight or when they have spent a week doing absolutely nothing. Nobody writes or shares those things, they share their highlights. For example, a while ago I checked in on my friends from high school Instagram and saw all their highlights and thought, what am I doing with my life…. Why is my life not exciting, what do I have to share? But you know what, when I have talked to my friends in person, they saw the same thing…. That their lives are so boring. They barely do anything and then they see everyone else doing such exciting things. It is because we want to portray ourselves as doing so much, having such an exciting life… and there is nothing wrong with that. I mean we cant blame the people who post things, we just need to realise that there is more than just a photo. (And lets not forget that the “famous” Instagram accounts often have a sort of “fake” online life where everything is so perfect and things are sponsored and such. But also they take 150 photos just to get one good one… there life is based on social media and they need to portray themselves in a certain way. Its not real life).
But I also thought about the fact that maybe my blog does the same thing to some…. But I don’t want you to ever compare your life to mine. Granted my life isn’t so exciting and there isn’t so much to share. But I don’t want you to feel bad if you don’t have a lot of friends or you don’t do anything exciting for birthdays, Christmases or new years. If all you do on weekends is watch films and series. You shouldn’t compare your life to anyone elses, and especially not what people post online. Because even if I am honest about the times when I spend hours straight watching series, I do mostly post about the highlights and post the “good” pictures mostly. But there is so much more in my life than I post about and many don’t realise that.
Its ok to have few friends, it is ok to not celebrate certain occasions, it is ok to not want to go out and party. Everyone is different and has different likes and interests. One thing to think about though is that if you have pushed friends and family away due to different reasons, it can be good for your own mental health to try to take contact with friends again or start some type of hobby or group which makes you socialise. Because a life without a social life or no friends isn’t a very happy life. A healthy life does include a social life and having a healthy and happy social life. So trying to make friends can be a good idea and then you don’t feel as lonely.