Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

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Thursday, January 14, 2016

Expectations of how life should be

I think one of the things that can really mess up your life and affect you negatively is your expectation of how life should be.

Painting an image in your head of a scenario or how things will go. But the fact is you can't control life... and you can't control other people.  and that is one of the things you need to learn to accept, that life won't always go as you had planned or thought out.

Sometimes you think, I'm ☓ years old and I've achieved nothing, and look at all the people the same age as me who have achieved so much. But everyone is different,  everyone has different lives and opportunities. .. some need to work harder than others. You shouldn't compare yourself to others. That will just make you feel down and feel like your life isn't good enough.

There have been times where I have thought out and planned how certain events and scenarios will play out, but things never go as I had planned. People say different things, behave in different ways or other things. For example, when I felt ready to talk to my doctor about my current situation/feelings and then I have a random new doctor who is mean to me and threatens to admit me to hospital (for CF reasons).... not exactly how I had planned to tell my normal doctors how I felt and that she would be understanding and help me.

Or when I maybe plan to have a movie evening with my sister and then she doesn't even want to... or I don't want to watch movies etc etc etc

Also remember,  people don't always act the way you had thought they would. Such as if you are sad and start crying and just want someone to hug or talk to, not everyone will understand that and some might tell you to snap out of it. Which is wrong... but people behave in different ways. Such as people show they care for someone in different ways. Some are more verbal and others show in small gestures or such. Just like people show sadness or anger in different ways and once again, might not act like you had thought they would.

It's hard to not plan put scamenarios in your head and plan how things will go. But just remember, it won't always go as planned and you need to be ok with that. Life goes on and that's part of life, the different and unexpected. Don't feel sad or angry just because things didn't go as planned, you can't control life and you can't control what people, how they behave or what they do. You can only control yourself.

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