Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

Translate

Monday, December 7, 2015

Let recovery take the time it takes, but you don't need to prolong it either

For some they wish to recover and gain weight as quick as possible, they want  to be healthy and happy and the person they were before the illness (or well a newer version of the old you!) They want the recovery progress to be quick. And then on the other side those just want to gain 1kg a month,  then lose 0,5kg next month and repeat and want the recovery process to go slow, not to fast because then it might be "too much".

Either way you think I think you should let recovery take the time it takes. You don't need to rush recovery because mental recovery does take time, it's not just to eat. But you don't need to prolong the process either and take backward steps if yiu think you made too much progress or went forward too fast. Recovery can't be controlled precisely, you never know what happens,  you just need to do your best everyday to fight your fears and focus on happiness and a healthy life. Trying to control recovery by speeding it up or slowing it down isn't a good idea just like with weight gain, let your body take care of that and don't try to speed the weight gain or slow it down to tiny amounts each month. Recovery is also about learning to let go of control and if you begin controlling recovery too much it can be much harder to actually recover as you get stuck in the recovery bubbled and never take that step to fully recovered.

Recovery is not a 6 week plan with steps on what to do when, it's about making changes and facing fears. It takes time and also if you need to gain weight, that takes time as well. So I don't like when people around the person who is struggling expect a person to be recovered in 8 weeks time. It most often takes longer than that even if alot can happen in 8 weeks.

Allow recovery to take the time it takes but keep motivated and keep pushing towards a healthier and happier you! ! Don't get stuck in the recovery bubble (where you are too scared to actually recover /fully recover )!!

Recovery is worth it and you need to remember that. You can always make changes to make things different but the first thing you have to do is to try!

2 comments:

  1. Thanks for this Izzy, its just what I needed to read. I`m kind of stuck in the wanting to recover but my body seems to be running on a mind of its own at the moment, all sorts of bizarre things (changes) happening which I have no control over.
    So I guess I just have to go wit the flow and take each day at a time...let my body do what it is going to do...I tried controlling it - didn't work, jus made me feel unwell and miserable, and didn't get me anywhere. But it really doesn't help when people say "oh in xx weeks you should be your normal weight" or "i thought you would have sorted yourself out by now" I feel like screaming at them that I am trying but I don`t know how long it will take. ignore them I guess.

    ReplyDelete
  2. I suppose recovery time all depends on the individual and so putting a 'time frame' (from ill to recovered) isn't possible.

    As long as one keeps fighting to recover - with the aim of being recovered -then that's surely the most important thing? :D X

    ReplyDelete