One thing which I can never seem to avoid while at grandparents (well step grandparents? ) houses is body and food comments. There always seems to be food and diet comments during dinner which I find out of place and unnecessary. Why talk about dieting and how you need to lose weight while eating? Nobody wants to hear about it. I mean I can gladly give you advice but please don't do it while I'm eating. Not that it's triggering I will still go get a second serving but I just don't think diet and weight loss talk is necessary while eating.
But also body comments.... some older people/older generation don't really think girls should strength train or gain muscle. So they like to tell me that I have gotten bigger and am looking broad -_- personally it doesn't bother me, that's jut a sign that I'm making progress and I like the way I look so their comments don't bother me. But back in the past those comments would have destroyed me. I remember while in recovery and I had to eat ice cream and I was already filled with anxiety but then I was told that I was looking bigger (as I had gained weight).from an older family member... and I couldn't eat the ice cream at all. My mum noticed what happened and saw how distraught I was after the comment so she didn't force me to eat the ice cream. But if someone is insecure body comments can be awful.... and I don't think they are necessary.
I know many of you might be going through the same thing. Body comments, food comments (such as I was told I shouldn't eat chocolate. And also if I ate chocolate i wouldn't eat dinner.... I then informed them that I can eat lots and that was exactly what I did. Lots of chocolate and nuts and two portions of dinner... though then there was no room for dessert :/) and diet talk as well. These things can be very triggering but you have to realise that you can't avoid it and instead you need to work with your own thoughts and make them not trigger you. Body comments are tough, especially being told you look bigger... but that is a good thing. They don't mean it negatively, it's just that they have no other words to express what they mean. Big or bigger doesn't mean ugly or fat. It just means that you have gotten stronger or gained weight (which can be a positive thing). Focus on your goal, be neutral about those types of comments. And if you find it rude tell that person... trust me, stand against the person and tell them their comment was unnecessary, then they are less likely to repeat the mistake!!!
And with food comments, remember you need to eat. Even if others say they need to lose weight or need to go on diets, that doesn't mean that you have to. Instead focus on your goals, on what is best for you. If you need to eat lots or gain weight then remember that and instead take an extra portion and smile at those who are eating minimal and counting calories. Instead be happy that you can eat as much as you want to!! Trust me, you are the winner in that situation :) :)
I know it's tough with some family members. And some people say things without thinking, but you can get through this. Scream unto pillows, write, rip paper... let out your frustration but don't ruin your progress or give up on recovery. Some people say unnecessary and stupid things, but you can't avoid those instead you need to learn to deal with them. People's opinion about your body doesn't matter, and people will comment about food but you gotta know what's best for you.
People always comment that I eat alot, but i just smile and don't care because I know I'm eating enough for my body. I'm not eating too much, I'm eating what's healthy for me. And how much each person needs is individual... so just because someone gets full after one potatoe and some chicken doesn't mean that everyone has to eat that little. I'll eat the amount I want and need and don't care what people think or say. An continue to grow and get stronger and build muscle because that makes me happy and that's what matters.
You got this. Don't let others stupid comments ruin your progress. Focus on you and your recovery! !!