Your needs don’t make you too much. They don’t make you selfish or weak or greedy. They make you human. We all have needs. And those hungers aren’t something we should feel ashamed of. They’re normal, we didn’t get enough of them as children hungers. Affections we’ve been deprived of by the people who are supposed to care for us. Connections we needed to feel whole and spaces we needed to feel safe. Cravings we’ve been taught we didn’t deserve. Appetites we’ve learned to suppress and fill with guilt. Again and again we’ve neglected our needs because we’ve been taught that they were too much— that we were too much. But we don’t have to any longer. You don’t have to. Whether you need support, alone time, affection, connection, validation, or reassurance that you are loved — it is more than okay to ask for what you need. Making your needs known isn’t about being demanding or selfish. It’s about self-care. It’s about creating a safer space for yourself. It’s about using your voice and speaking your truth. It’s about giving yourself permission to take up space. It’s about listening to your hungers and honoring them. It’s about honoring yourself.
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Daniell Koepke
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I love this
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ReplyDeletehi izzy i wondered if you had any thoughts on how to get around feeling a need to justify to yourself that you need to eat more especially if my weight is going up, i feel that i must continue to starve myself if I'm hungry till the next meal. i daren't eat more and if i have put on some weight or stayed the same I'm told just to carry on as i am and they don't care that i am hungry and in pain and have so much anxiety that i may have to eat and lose control. How do i allow myself to eat and put more weight on i feel trapped
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