b) for good?
And/or the most life-changing thing anyone ever said to you, a) for bad,
b) for good? Or is it difficult, or unhelpful, to think in those terms?
I thought about this question for a while and i came up with a very good answer and something which did change my life. While i was a day patient and was relapsing in spring 2012, where i had lost weight and had begun restricting, binging, purging and other bad habits again. I went for a check up and weigh in at Mando and my case manager told me i had lost weight but i just said it was because of my CF and that i had a hard time gaining weight. I tried to convince her to lower my goal weight from 60kg to 55kg. I didnt want to weigh 60kg, it was too much i thought at the time. I tried to convince her that i was healthy as i was going to school and a daypatient it was just that i couldnt gain weight. But then she said something which was very important for me to hear and something i tell my readers that is "If i was truly healthy then my weight wouldnt matter. It wouldnt matter if i weighed a few kilo more". (She also then told me that if i didnt gain weight i would be back to daypatients from 8-4pm and if that didnt work back to inpatients.... so that was the kick i needed as well). But what she told me first, about my weight was something that stuck with me. Because it is SO TRUE. You can NOT say you are healthy if you are obsessed with your weight and weighing a certain number... it does not work that way. You are still obsessed with weight then. You need to accept your healthy set point whatever that may be. I always blamed my CF for not being able to gain weight, but even if i need to eat lots to gain weight i can still gain weight, and i did reach my goal weight and my body settled there. And then when i began strength training i gained more weight and that was ok, because the number did not have any meaning anymore. As long as i felt healthy mentally and physically that number had no meaning to me. And THAT is healthy. Not trying to compromise, trying to control your weight or eat less to keep your weight a certain number. Healthy is when you can listen to your body and allow your body to be its healthy weight, not try to have the lowest fat percent or lowest weight, it doesnt work like that. That is both physically and mentally unhealthy. So please remember this... if you are trying to compromise or using unhealthy methods to control your weight or eating, then you arent healthy.