Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

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Saturday, November 14, 2015

Comparing with the past

One of the things which you might find in recovery is that old memories come back to haunt you. But these memories seem to have a rosy tint on  them... you think back to the past and think, well it wasnt so bad when i only ate once a day. Or, well running 10km everyday wasnt so bad, somedays i actually enjoyed it. or it wasnt so bad when i was sick.....


Its like the memories are warped in your brain and the past looks a little better than what it actually was... and the past seems to be more tempting than the present. Ive been there... i can still get those thoughts once in a blue moon.
  But sometimes i think back to times when i was underweight and think, it wasnt so bad. I wasnt that sick.
But the truth is, it was awful when i was sick. The constant anxiety, panic, fear, self hatred and everythging else. Every meal was anxiety filled. Thoughts of self harm and suicide were constantly in my mind. It was like i had this rain cloud over my head and it was a storm over me all day, everyday.
  And there was a reason i choose to recover and that reason was because i felt i could no longer be sick anymore... i realised that fighting for recovery, with everything involved with recovery and weight gain, it was worth it. I didnt want to be sick anymore.

And you have to realise and remember the reason WHY you chose to recover in the first place. Was it to travel somewhere? To get your life back? to be allowed to study again? to make your family happy etc?
  Remember that reason.

Also write down all the negatives about being sick... about having an eating disorder. Was there really anything good with it? The starvation? hunger? routines and habits? ocd habits? anxiety? guilt? lack of social life? fear? self hatred?

You might think back and think...well i was skinny and happy and who cares about a social life, but really.... is that what you want? did you actually like your body back then? Some might say yes, but if you were to ask me for an honest answer. When i was sick i constantly felt fat and bloated.... there were random times when i thought i looked skinny and liked it. But most of the time i hated how i looked, i felt this need to lose weight and fat and that everyone was staring at me because i was so fat. So no.... i wouldnt want to go back to the body i had when i was sick.

THink of the tiredness, the hair covering your body, hair falling out.... and if you purged, think of all the consequences of purging or even binging.


Memories change and can be warped, it happens to all of us. If you were to ask 2 people about their memories of the same events they wouldnt eb the same as each other and if you were to ask them again in 2 years to describe the same event they would most probably say something different again.... memories change.
  Dont believe everything in your head. Just focus on the NOW. If you are struggling now, try to fix the problem instead of thinking back to the past. The past isnt somewhere you want to go back to, you should just focus on the future. On moving forward with your life, not holding ontto the past.
    So fix the problem at hand instead of runnign away from your problems. Seek more help. Find a new reason and motivation to keep going....

If you are at a half recovery stage, you are sort of on a balancing scale... either you can fall back into your ED or you can take the leap of faith and jump into full recovery. So think about what you really want.
  Is being sick, having an eating disorder really worth it? What are you giving up just to be skinny?



Focus on making NOW good. On making life worth living... dont live your life in your head or in the past. Make changes in your life for the better so that the present will get better. And work on your MENTAL thoughts. Because an ED is a mental illness, so you need to get rid of your ED thoughts and habits... work on healthy habits. on a healthy life!!!

8 comments:

  1. Thank you so much, Izzy. This is really helpful. X
    I hope you had a good day today.

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  2. What a nice post, I really did enjoy reading it! I do struggle with these kind of thoughts and they are keepingme away from living my life. I need to change! ��

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  3. Thank you so much for this post Izzy :) NO.. I really don't want to go back to what was before!

    It's so easy to keep going round in circles -- memories, behaviours and dwelling on what can't be changed. Thanks so much for a reminder of focusing on the future and what one can change.

    Thank you X

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  4. amazing post. I inspirational as always. thank you Izzy. x S

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