For me the only way i stopped calorie counting was by following a meal plan... because then even if i counted everyday and would always round up, so that one day my meal would be X calories and the next day for some reason i would think it was X&50kcal even if it was the exact same meal/snack. So eventually i realised i was eating the same thing each day and so what was the point of counting calories. And then i got alternatives for other foods such as 1 ice cream & 2 dl juice was equal to a snack or 150g of chocolate covered nuts etc and that was sort of comforting knowing that i wasnt eating "too much" and eventually as i began to trust my body i began eating more intuitively and fogetting about calories. Or if i did count it didnt trigger me as much as i saw it as just numbers. It is an automatic thing and once you know it you wont forget it, but the best thing is to take the triggering factor away from calories. To see it as just number, to try to remind yourself that even if you eat more for one meal it balanced itself out eventually and that eating more one day wont mean that you gain weight. Calories are energy and your body is always burning calories so you need to replace those so that you have energy to live.
Below are some posts which you might find helpful on how to stop counting calories. What works for people is very individual, but taking the fear and negativity out of calories is the best option because calories are always there, people will talk about calories and you will read about calories in magazines etc, but if you dont find calories or knowing the amount in food as something negative then you have nothing to worry about.
How to stop counting calories - masterpost
How to stop counting calories - post
Why and how i stopped counting calories
Metabollism and calories in recovery
Calorie intake in recovery
Is calorie counting and weighing yourself in recovery necessary?
Increasing my calories in recovery
Freedom from calories, weight and obsessiveness
how do you think you would feel/be if you didn't exercise so much? like do you think you would use food again as a means to cope?
You wrote that goals keep you going. When you reach a goal ... can you be happy and proud about that or is the next goal already in your mind?Oh , or do you panic when you reached a goal, because you have got nothing that keeps you going anymore and ypu have to find something new?
Hmmm, i can be proud of myself when i reach goals... but i dont really stop to be proud of myself either. I mean when i ran my first 15km i was proud but i had already set up my goal of 20km and when i did that my goal was to run an actual half marathon and i wouldnt really be satisfied until i had done that. And then i set up the goal of a full marathon.... so i guess i do put up new goals almost as soon as i have reached a goal. And if i dont have a goal... i do feel a little lost, like i dont know what to do. I need goals to keep me going and to get me up each day, if i dont have goals then i dont see the point of getting up because there is nothing to fight for. However i am not so rigid and strict with reaching goals, i mean i dont set up dates to reach my goals and i dont work towards them everyday. But they are there in the back of my mind and that is helpful. I mean for example now when i am finding the maths difficult and i would very much like to quit the course, i remind myself that i have set up the goal to pass the course and that requires me to put in hours each day to study maths and so it is worth it even if i feel irritated at times.
Do you know " Everything ED recovery" , this side of a women named Sarah?
What is your opinion?
I think many things of your eatopia are good and supportive, but this side is sometimes a little bit too... extreme...? Don`t know, because my anorexia is still so strong, so I would appreciate your opinion very much!
I had never read her blog or heard about "your eatopia" but its sort of like Minni Maud and that does work, so i dont think it is too extreme. It is pretty much recovery and some good guidelines and with the calorie amount they are the amounts you should aim for based on different factors, however its about increasing and not just jumping from x calories to 2800kcal. I havent read her blog or any posts so i cant say so much about it :)
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