Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

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Sunday, September 27, 2015

19 things I've learnt by the age of 19 (life advice)

Always keep spare ear buds in your bag or purse... The worst thing is when you lose an ear bud and really want to listen to music.

Try to keep normal sleep routines. Trust me it will make life so much easier when you try to go to sleep and wake up at the same time each day.

If you get options and you know which one you want, then don't say whatever.  For example if someone asks you if you want chocolate cake or creme brulee for dessert and you know you want the chocolate cake... then don't say whatever. I've done it far too often and then gotten the option which I didn't really want just because I didn't say what I wanted. Of course sometimes comprises are important. . . For example my boyfriend would most likely prefer to go to meat restaurants while I'd prefer to go to vegan or vegetarian buffets.... so we compromise because going to either wouldn't be fair to the other.

Don't drink coffee and energy drinks after one another. .. even if it tastes good. It doesn't matter how caffeine resistant you are. 2 double coffees followed by 2 energy drinks in a matter of 15 minutes afterwards = uncontrollable shaking and a racing heart. It will scare you and most likely isn't good.

Don't wear uncomfortable shoes. It's not worth it...  If you don't like heels, don't wear them. But if you do like them, find comfortable ones. And most importantly don't do alot of walking or running in bed shoes or shoes wrong for your feet. In the long run you will regret it.

Don't let people take credit for your ideas. Far too many times I've had an idea or said something but not everyone heard it and then someone else repeats it louder and gets all the credit and I've been too scared to speak up and say that it was my idea. But learn from my mistakes.... take credit for your own ideas!!

Don't let people walk all over you. It's ok to be a somewhat people pleaser,  but being a pushover, where people know you are one isn't good. People will abuse that and know that you will do what they ask even if you don't want to.... learn to take a stand as well and not let people walk all over you.
 
Be kind to people. ... even mean people.  It's often the mean people who need kindness the most. So instead of being mean back, either ignore them or overdose them with kindness. ... They won't know what hit them. And always be kind to strangers. ... everyone has their struggles and sometimes a smile or compliment can make their day or week!! It doesn't cost you anything to be kind!

Dare to step outside of your comfort zone every now and then. Do things you have dreamed of doing or never even thought of doing. Do something different and new!

Keep your clothes organized - whatever organization is for you. Trust me, its happened far too often where i have had little time but needed to try to find an item of clothing in a rush but because of the mess havent been able to find it. So keep them organized so YOU know where things are anyway!

Sex is not like in the movies. It is fun, it is awkward and you might end up hitting each other and waking up with bruises in weird places. One thing i can say is that... if you cant laugh at the same time with the person you are with, then its most likely the wrong person. Of course... one night stands are different, but if its with your partner anyway!


Drink lots of water. Its good for your skin, mental clarity, organs, physical health etc etc Drink lots of it.... apart from when you are doing alot of travelling or wont have access to a bathroom. Then its just to be dehydrated a little while, because really needing to pee but not being able to.... one of the worst feelings ever.

Try to keep a regular sleeping routine i.e go to bed and wake up at roughly the same time each day. Even during holidays... sleep is important and keeping a regular sleeping routine will help you so much in life!

Do your best at all things and be proud of that. You cant be best at everything, but do YOUR best and be satisifed with that... because that is all you can do and you should be proud of that. Proud of even trying, because many people dont even try because of the fear of failing or not being good enough. 

Take mental health days if necessary. This was something i needed while going to school and will most likely always need when in school or work... there will be times when i will just have to say "no". I need a day off... some might think that is strange or "weak" but i call it, taking care of my mental health. Somedays you just need to take a long hot shower, watch all your favourite series, not think about work or school and just... relax. And come back feel refreshed.

Dont start drinking coffee or smoking. If you dont already do these things... dont try. Trust me, you might think its "cool" to drink coffee.... but you know what, its an addiction. And once you start drinking, its like you no longer have energy if you dont drink it. So dont start. And ive never tried smoking, but just dont..... 

Take pictures. Dont be scared of what other people think... take your selfies, take pictures of your food, take pictures of your friends, take pictures of whatever you want to... because life is short and why not. And documenting things is awesome and you can look back on them and remember old things!!

Dont be scared to go your own way and do your own thing. It can be tough, being the person who "seems different." But do what is best for you, go your own way if you have to. For me, all my friends drink but i choose to not drink (95% of the time anyway. Recently i have but i have regretted it so much) because that is what is best for me. And i have choosen to go my own way in other aspects of my life as well and i know that is what is best for me.

Eat food with no regrets. Seriously.... life is too short to feel guilty over food or not eat what you enjoy. Of course, the golden rule of balance and moderation is important to remember. But dont feel guilty over food or eating, enjoy chocolate, enjoy brocolli, enjoy pizza, enjoy salad.... enjoy food!!! :)

4 comments:

  1. Don't take it the wrong way, i really like your Blog, but some of these advices seem a little over the top to me.. For example, the one with energy drinks and coffee and/or organizing clothes... Isn't this logical thinking? Does one really need to put this into an advice?
    Really, i don't mean to be harsh, it just confused me a little. Love

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    1. These are things I've learnt from my own life I.e general advice. And it may be common sense... but not everyone keeps their clothes folded,iI definitely don't. .. but it is advice to myself that I should. And unfortunately I amnt the only one who drinks alot of coffee or energy drinks and might consume too much at once. .. but it's something I've learnt isn't a good idea. Of course there is common sense such as you need to eat to survive but if someone is suffering from an eating disorder then that advice is need say because it's something they might forget.

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  2. Not doing things to please others, but for yourself (in a sense), in your own life I think is important - - without being selfish of course. But, trying to 'step out of your comfort zone; occasionally, not being afraid to take risks and enjoy YOUR life and the direction that your life is going in.. I kinda get!

    Being afraid of failing has always been such a big stumbling block for me, or trying to 'impress' others or keep everyone I care about happy -- learning to actually care about myself too and enjoying life, food, hobbies etc. is as equally as important as loving other people (balance!). Not being afraid to have a crack at things or take your life too seriously..

    Some relatable points!! Love u Izzy! :) Xx

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  3. I think all of these are definitely great tips. Coming from someone a bit older I would add ' learn to let things go and not hold grudges'. It took me ages to stop blaming and resenting people for the things that I went through. Especially my own mother. In time I have learnt that I just had to let go to be able to move on. X

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