Thank you :) I would first increase to about 1800, then increase to about 2200 and then increase again to around 2500-2800. I think jumping straight to 2500 will be too much for your stomach to handle but also your body and metabolism need to get used to gradual changes, the important thing is to keep increasing and not eat too little.
I have an issue on which I'd like your input. When entering into a relationship, did you have any body issues and horrible thoughts come back up? Because I am facing that now and I am having some severe anxiety as a result. I feel so vulnerable and open to judgement and like my controlled, private little world is being invaded and all I want to do is run. I just don't feel like I can be so physically close to someone without constantly being so much more aware of every aspect of my body and mind.
Constantly thinking about food is obsessive and can be due to control issues. You dont need to think about food all the time, it shouldnt take up all your thoughts. There is more to life than food, it is a part of life but NOT your whole life. Try to find other things you can do and things to distract yourself. Find a hobby or interest you can immerse yourself in. Talk to friends/family and try new things. Read a book, draw, write, watch series or films, do crosswords/suduko etc
But also work on letting go of your control around food. Allow others to make and prepare your food. Eat at different times. Eat out spontaneously, face fear foods, eat with others. Let others cook you food, allow others to plate up your food, eat when others are eating and not just according to your own clock. Controlling your food religiously is not a good idea and adds alot of stress and anxiety to your life, when you could instead be focusing on other things and spending energy and time on other things in your life. Focus on other thoughts.... if you have a meal plan, follow that but also work on letting go of control. Otherwise, try to eat when you are hungry and stop when you are full and then move on from your food, do other things. Dont get stuck just thinking about food.
Izzy, it is possible to be almost at my goal weight but still in starvation mode? I still thinking a lot about food, i get full after small amounts, but lately the weight gain is much slower. What should i do? I have to finish my plate even if i got full when i ate like 3/4 of it? Or i can stop when i get full? Sometimes for breakfast i get full whit only X. When you recommend to start eating intuitively? Lately i'm trusting my fullness cues and i find myself eating a little less, but i don't know if that's okay because i'm reaching my goal weight or if isn't okay because my metabolism still suppressed in some way
If you have been eating enough and regularly then your body most likely isnt in starvation mode. Gerneally the closer you get to your goal weight the slower the weight gain goes, this is a good sign, thats how it should be. And generally you dont feel as hungry or eat as much as when you are gaining weight, but you DONT have to restrict or eat less just because you are at your goal weight, your body should adapt to the calorie intake. And usually you are more active, do more when you are at your goal weight. This is another reason why you shouldnt be doing lots of exercise during recovery or weight gain, because whenyou reach your goal weight and you are more active then you dont need to lower your calorie intake because the more movement/activity in your life = +/-/0 with your weight and it is stable.
You said you are almost at your goal weight, so i wouldnt be trying to eat less, you still need to focus on weight gain so keep eating as usual. Your signals might not be fully working so if you have been following a meal plan, keep folowing that. Your body still needs food and if you eat less you will end up losing weight, which is the opposite of what you need/want to do. You should want to reach your goal weight and then try to maintain, focus on self love and living life. Keep trying to eat as much as you used to, dont allow yourself to eat less because that can trigger things. If you cant fully rely on your bodies cues and they lead you to eat less than you need, then follow a meal plan. This is what i tell people even when they are a normal weight, if their bodies cues arent fully working then a meal plan is best and after a few weeks/months following a form of meal plan and the signals are working better/more reliable then slowly begin to eat more intuitvely. Meaning you eat more/less depending on your bodies signals.