Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

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Friday, June 5, 2015

Focus on your positives not your negatives


We all have our flaws. Things we dislike about ourselves.
I am sure we could all write a list filled with our negatives and the things we dislike about ourselves which is 5 times longer than the list of positives. But thats not how it should be.
I am at the stage of self love where that is not the case for me... of course i have things i dislike about myself and things i am self conscious about. Ive always hated my smile and my face from the side as well as my legs. But i've come to realise that hating them wont make me feel better.
There are far better things to focus on in life than worry about how my legs look in certain jeans or shorts. Who cares if there are scars or cellulite on them, in the end its only me who notices those things. It was 2013/2014 when i finally learnt to accept my legs and love them for how they work, what they can do as well as how they look, and its still the same now :)

I focus on my positives. I focus on other peoples positives and see the good things in other people.
Infact i am sometimes told that i am too positive because i never say anything bad about other people and even if someone is mean or mean to me i try to see their good sides and positives. I compliment others when it is a sincere compliment - which is often. I want to make others feel positive and happy as well, spread some positivity!

Ooopps, a bit of a tangent up there! I know its easy to get caught up in your own flaws, the things you dislike about yourself. The things you want to change.... but it wont bring you happiness or peace if you just focus on those things. You get too caught up in the negative, can never accept a compliment because you just see your bad sides. Which also leads to... dont compare your everyday to other peoples highlights. Everyone is different.
Dont even compare yourself to your friends or family.... everyone is different heights, weights, sizes, age. People are good at different things, that is what makes us unique. So who cares if one of your friends seems to be good at everything or one friend is really good at hair and make up and you can barely put on concealer (welcome to my life;)). We are unique and different and we all have our specialities and things we consider flaws - though they really arent. Because they make us who we are!
There is no such thing as perfect and i can guarantee you most people have something which they like less about themselves... and if they dont, that is awesome! Good for them, thats the way it should be really. But we are brought up in a society which tells us that we have 101 flaws which need to be fixed but we wont be happy even when that is done.

Lets focus on positivity.
Compliment people.
Compliment YOURSELF.
Say 5 good things about yourself in the morning and evenings.

And most important: SMILE






3 comments:

  1. not here, pls...^^

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  2. Great post! you look beautiful xo
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