This tip goes for most areas in life though, but it is definitely worth remember in recovery. It is easy to complain about the fact that you have no trust, that no one trusts or believes you. It sucks, i know, especially when you are doing things right. But you have to look at it like this... You spent more time lying, cheating and doing things wrong when you said you were doing things right, so of course it will take time for family, friends, doctors and nurses to believe you again. It is alot easier to lose trust than it is to build it up again.
You need to remember that because eating disorders and other mental illnesses are so secretive it is hard for people to believe you. You lie and tell your parents that you have eaten when you havent, you lie and tell people that you are fine when you are thinking thoughts about suicide, you lie and say you havent exercised when you have, you use ways to cheat with the scale and make yourself weigh more..... but once the truth comes out (and it will, i promise you.) then all trust will be lost and it takes time to build it up again.
To regain your trust you need to SHOW that you can be trusted. Dont care if your parents are watching you eat or watching while you prepare meals. Instead see it as a good thing and show them that you can be trusted. Eventually people will begin to trust you again and you must not abuse that trust. You need to remember how long it takes to rebuild trust and that something as simple as a white lie can break that trust completely.
Remember that actions speak louder than words. You can regain trust but you need to show that you have earned it and can be trusted. Words arent always enough.
So even if its tough be honest and EARN the trust!!!
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