Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

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Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Telling other people how to feel

Something which i detest alot is when other people think its ok to tell others how they should or shouldnt feel.... i.e telling someone they shouldnt feel sad or telling them to just stop being sad.  Or something which i despise alot... comparing situations. I.e you shouldnt be sad because someone else has it worse than you....
   Now before i continue, i know we all do this, even I do it at times.... i.e you tell someone that they shouldnt feel sad or that they shouldnt stress... we all do it. But i prefer to phrase it in a way that is helpful, or helping the person cope and overcome their sadness, stress or any other feeling instead of telling them that they are wrong and shouldnt feel that way. Because you know what, people are entitled to their feelings....
Example, say you get a C on a test and you feel sad over that because you wanted an A or you usually get higher than a C, and then someone comes along and tells you that you shouldnt feel sad because some people got an E or didnt pass at all..... I hate those types of people. Because you know what, if a person wants to, or does feel sad about something they are entitled to it. Instead you can be encouraging and help them realise that a C isnt a bad grade and that its ok to feel sad, and remind them that there is more to life than one test, or that there is another chance to improve their  grade. Or another example, if you are very stressed with something or other and someone comes along and tells you that you shouldnt stress or shouldnt feel stressed.... Well that isnt very helpful. Instead of telling them how they should or shouldnt feel, maybe give them some good advice on how to feel better or cope with the stress. Some people can freak out when they have to do presentations, whilst others dont even think about it because they are so relaxed about presenting in class or at work... everyone is different. So everyone feels differently about different things and thats ok, thats life. Thats individuality.

You ARE entitled to your feelings. Though of course, its also important to change your feelings to more positives ones. You are of course allowed to feel sad, but it will benefit you more if you do try to change those thoughts into more positive ones because dwelling too much on negative things or getting burnt out from the stress isnt good for you. But if you find good ways to cope with your feelings and emotions, then they wont overwhelm you!!

Im not sure where im going with this post... but i just want to remind you all that you are entitled to your feelings. That even if people tell you that you are wrong or that you shouldnt feel that way, you can still feel a certain way. Though its important to remember.... try not to stay too much in the negative feelings and emotions, dont settle and stay there. You still need to try to change those feelings, even if thats what you feel!!!