Life without Anorexia

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'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

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Monday, February 23, 2015

Getting food comments

Something which has always baffled me is when people comment about what other people are eating or what they buy. Especially when its strangers.... I mean if its a friend or family who is concerned over what you eat for a legitmate reason then its not so strange that they might make a comment to bring something to your attention. But if its a snarky or mean comment about how much you eat or that you eat weird or strange even if its from a friend or family i think its wrong. Food is so individual, though of course if someone is eating extremely little or a very extreme amount where packages of food disappear over the night then its important to bring it to attention, but otherwise not.

Today when i went to the store to buy lunch i decided to buy some dessert/snack for later, when i was going to pay the guy at the cashier was like...'wow are you going to eat all of that for lunch. I am guessing its lunch?' I was so shocked i didnt really know what to say, i laughed and just said 'i might be sharing it... or i might not!' then packed my things and walked away, still feeling baffled over his comment? Was it really necessary?
  When i was sick a comment like that would have lead to me not eating at all, i would have thrown away everything i had bought because i would feel guilty like eating is wrong or that it was too much. But the fact is, what does he know what i have eaten before or plan on eating later? He doesnt know whether i had just run 2 hours beforehand or maybe going to do a tough workout later.... or maybe i need to gain weight or have an illness which means i need to eat alot (which is actually the case for me!!). Making comments about what someone buys in a shop or what someone orders to eat, it's very unnecessary.

But anyway i went back to A's place and ate my favourite salad combination (but i was sad that there were no falafels :( ) and in a short while im going to eat dessert/snack which is fruit salad, a new quark flavour (in small amounts the lactose doesnt bother my stomach too much, but its definitely helped cutting down on lactose for my stomach!), chocolate and salted cashew nuts!!





After my 10 minute walk to the store i am feeling alot better after some fresh air!! Going to continue my series watching now :) 





41 comments:

  1. Hi Izzy!
    I so know what you mean by getting annoyed about food comments. I myself eat very regularly and often have my snack during seminars or lectures. And every time I start to eat someone makes a comment :( It makes me not to want to eat my snack. The comment have been for example: "Didn´t you have lunch" or "Look, you brought a snack" or "Are you bulking?"
    Why do people have to say anything?
    Then a question about a previous post. At what stage of recovery did you stop thinking about food constantly and planning? Were you weight restored or did it happen before that?

    Thank you Izzy! Have a great week!

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    1. I totally know where you're coming from! At university I had to deal with the same comments when eating...

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  2. I have mixed feelings about this though... I mean I get a lot of comments about what I eat and how much, and I do think of it as unnesessary and it makes me feel different (in a bad way). Like it seems like those who comment are trying to 'push me down'. But really - I have to ask myself 'WHY does this bother me?' There is nothing wrong with eating what I'm eating or the amount - I eat for my body! Others have the right to be curious - and asking a question (about food-related things) should not wake these 'worthless-ish' feelings within me! To me (and my over analytic mind) it seems like this is a bit of my past eating disorder talking (or in this case; interpreting). The person probably doesn't mean anything negative about it - it's not like they called you fat or skinny or anything really. I am working on just accepting that there will be made comments about my diet :) (Just some thoughts)

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  3. i absolutely agree with you, izzy :) just out of curiosity: what is A's job?? ( I understand if you would rather not answer this :))

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  4. you are such a hypocrite - a while ago you wrote a post where you were extremely judgemental of the photos on certain fitness IGs, but if someone comments on your food it bothers you. grow up and learn to be critical of yourself

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    1. You might have a point, but if you had written it without that angry tone, your argument would be easier to try to understand where you are comming from - just a tip ;) I'm sure Izzy can take constructive critique, but your comment came of as a bit too harsh...

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    2. Izzy wrote thinking about those who have still struggleing with an eating disorder and how this kind of comments could upset someone with an ED, I personally cant understand why would a cashier or other random person feel the need to comment what someone bought in the store or elswhere.

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    3. Maybe he just wanted to start a conversation or be funny - Izzy is a pretty girl after all :) But it doesen't seem like Izzy was charmed too much :P haha

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    4. izzy judging others based on a few IG pictures just seems a bit off when it's put next to her saying how people shouldn't comment on her/other's eating, doesn't it? she's clearly still way too obsessed with food, all her recaps include i ate x, i found x food, x is delicious, i fell in love with x food. she acts superior to other fitness bloggers and tries way too hard to prove how 'healthy' and 'balanced' she is. normal people don't put so much emphasis on their food, or the food of others, i'm sorry but it's just the truth

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    5. Izzy has had an eating disorder and it is normal that after recovery, food has a different meaning (in a positive way) - you focus more on what the food does for you and your body and how to aprechiate it! I think Izzy is healthy and not sick :) But it's clear that through a person with an eating disorder's eyes, they want others to not be 100% healthy, so that they can feel better themselves - it makes them feel some comfort for a while. Izzy do not feel bad about these negative comments (or opinions if you want). :) These people do not know you. They just have an image of what you're like through your blogging, pictures. XX

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    6. yet when your beloved izzy judges other people's posts when she doesn't know them at all, you are worshipping her and it's alright, mkay then :D

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    7. Gosh, I'm so tired I can't process everything I'm reading or writing for that matter - please excuse me. You might have a valid point though..

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    8. well, the point is - izzy doesn't like people judging her, but she has no issues with accusing other people of being sick etc. based on a few IG pictures. and when it's HER IG pics, she says 'they're not the whole story'. kinda weird

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  5. My mother just commented "Ohh, that's quite a lot!" when she saw my night snack :((( I don't like it when she says things like that

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  6. You brag about how you can eat tons, but if someone aknowledges that, you feel offended. Why? You obviously take pride in how much you can eat so what is wrong with someone commenting on it?

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    1. Wow! I never thought of it that way - good point

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    2. Before I recovered fully, I was exactly like this - bragging how much I can eat, exclaiming over-the-top how much I LOOOOVE food etc. But when someone called a meal of mine large or whatever I freaked out extremely bad and pretty much lost my shit. So it's kind of clear Izzy still has issues. It's just not normal. I have nothing against her - it's just sad to see she is in such denial.

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    3. I think that you have to get over her past like she is over it. Izzy is a daily blogger and sharing things people are wanting to read/see so what is the problem really? There are comments every other day where readers want to see more food pictures and recipes.

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  7. Wowww... that is a lot of gossip in one day....

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  8. Isn't there enough hatred and fighting in the world?? Why are people posting such rude and disrespectful comments and attacking izzy, who dedicates so much of her time to helping people?? Instead of commenting on how she is still sick and in denial, maybe think of who you are to be assessing her. And ask yourself whether it really makes you feel so satisfied that you have to write such inconsiderate things as were written here. Why are you here, if you are not sick?? And if you are, maybe you are not the best person to judge and criticize izzy.

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    1. I am here because why should I stop reading a blog I enjoyed just because I got better? I'm not attacking Izzy, saying someone is in denial is not attacking. I'm soooo sorry that I am concerned about a blogger I like when she exhibits clear signs of a still-unhealthy mindset frequently

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    2. Once again: who are you to judge and say that she has "a still-unhealthy mindset frequently"?? After this, I'll stop answering your comments because obviously you know you are right and you are just here to attack izzy. Maybe instead appreciate what she does for us; you enjoy reading this blog yet you are criticizing her (she is behind what you like reading). If you have constructive criticism, I am sure izzy would agree to it, but you express yourself in such a rude way, that nothing you write can be taken as being "concerned"(as you call yourself).

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    3. ??? Asking why one takes offense, or saying someone may be in denial, is nothing rude. Please, take a good look at your approach, if you get this sensitive over a BLOGGER, you shouldn't even be on the internet m8

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    4. Yes: asking why one takes offense is not rude. However, you did not simply ask. And I am not getting sensitive over a blogger: I am replying to other people's stupidity. She is more than just a blogger; she replies to emails, gives advice outside of her blog which you may not know about. And as to that Internet comment of yours: why shouldn't I be on the Internet?? It doesn't have to be a hateful place if people like you treated others respectfully and didn't just decide to make it an unpleasant experience. The fact that you are telling me I shouldn't be on the Internet is so irrelevant, because I am in no way listening to someone who is just here to hate. And by the way, I am not your "m8".

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    5. >wants the internet to be a happy carebear place
      >implies people are stupid for having an opinion
      ok m8 ;)

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  9. This is the first time I comment on your blog, but I just felt like I had to say something, so here we go:
    If everyone who's complaning and saying that Izzy is "in denial" can read the post again, you will notice that she didn't react in a weird way or threw her food away etc. She talked about when she was sick, and how comments like these makes you feel when you have an ED. I can totally relate to it, and it's just unnecessary to comment on peoples foodhabits, sick or not.
    Remember that Izzy wrote this post for us who's trying to recover to show that you're not alone about feeling this way and that you should not care. A lot of people talk before they think.
    Instead of hating on Izzy and Calling her sick, you should thank her for Everything she has done and does. She's a big inspiration to me and a lots people :)

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    1. what about her judging others then? it's hilarious she gets so upset when people comment on her food because 'they don't know the full story', yet she calls most fitness bloggers disordered based on a few pictures of salad. :D

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    2. "hilarious"????? Is this some kind of game? And she comments on those pictures because that is all they post, yet they promote recovery. Izzy shows a balance in her life, and that's what she tries to prove through her pictures and posts. Also, izzy does not blog for herself, but for others who she inspires. So stop criticizing her and start seeing her dedication. The last point I will make, which is really important: as opposed to other people commenting on food without a real basis or reason to what they say, izzy does.

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    3. "as opposed to other people commenting on food without a real basis or reason to what they say, izzy does" - That sentence makes 0 sense... Also, so what if it's all they post? She doesn't know their behind-the-scenes, and frankly, I love a good pizza/cake as much as the next person, but you have to realize some people truly do enjoy salads etc. so she's in no place to make judgements on their way of eating :) if it's what makes them feel happy/good/healthy, all power to them. at least they're not being judgemental

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  10. Wow...what a discussion. Maybe it's time to listen to Izzy's reaction. (If she bothers to answer these comments at all, which I wouldn't be surprised if she wouldn't do.)
    By the way, Izzy, I hope you just sit back and laugh at those comments:)
    K.

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  11. I personally don't see anything wrong with Izzy's posts but wow, some of you are so vicious. I understand you like Izzy but there is absolutely no need for such aggression towards people who just express their thoughts. At the end of the day, blogs are a public thing that is open to commenters and I understand some of the points they're making. I don't believe that Izzy is still disordered but it's true that some of the things she does come off as quite hypocritical, sometimes insensitive. But it doesn't undo the help she brings to people or her as a person. It's not all black and white people, chill out, all of you. There is no need to call each other stupid, no need to get overly defensive but also no need to pry like that. Just my 2 cents which I will probably be executed for by angry fans, but I don't even post this with the intention to offend. Here goes nothing.

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    1. I was just wondering what things you think i write/do that are insensitive, because then i can make sure to not write about them or to rephrase things :)

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    2. Nah, it doesn't matter that much. They don't really come up a lot anymore and I can't influence what you post, don't worry about it :)

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    3. I take all constructive criticism on board and it does influence what I write so it would be great to know.... just incase there are some things which I write and I don't think are strange but can be perceived strange or incentive to others :)

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    4. Well it's just you used to say a lot for example that working out a lot/having a perfect 6pack don't matter, yet your body is pretty much the 'fitspo' ideal (I mean in a good way!) and you work out soooo much! But you don't really say it that much anymore and it's not your fault that you look the way you do, I mean, respect, you have tremendous dedication! But stuff like that can just be perceived as 'double-edged' :)

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    5. Ohh of course :) but remember I look the way I look for many different reasons and I don't workout to have a 6 pack. In fact my abs are mostly light, angles and flexing!! Hahah. And I'm open about that fact that when I post a picture it's most often the best one out of 50 ;) working out is for so much more than trying to look a certain way, I would workout in a different way as well as eat in a different way if shaping my body was the goal. But I know for people who might not read my blog for a long time it can seem like I just workout to look a certain way. But thank you for letting me know :)

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  12. Discussion ends here. Everyone has different opinions thats fine. There is no point in arguing with strangers over the internet.
    Thank you for those of you defending me. There will always be people judging me and thinking im doing wrong. Thats fine. You dont personally know me so you can have whatever thoughts you like about me, what i do, how i live my life etc
    And if you are concerned for my health... then there are better ways to go about it then how it has been done here.

    This place is supposed to be a positive and inspiring place and if that isnt the case i will turn off commenting or turn off anonymous comments.

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  13. Just a question; If you don't Care if you have visible Abs or not, Why do you take pictures and Show it to others? Because all It really does is to add on this stress to have the fit and perfect body. I know that you are on social media at your own risk, but for most people it's hard to not be affected, especially those Who have ed's. I mean isn't it just really unessesary since It has nothing to do with your exercise? I'm not trying to offend you, I'm just curious what you think about it, since there is this "fitness trend" on social medias.

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    1. Well I don't see why not? If it triggers people then they shouldn't follow those accounts. Though I don't do it as often as before :) it all depends on what I feel like posting. Though I feel like I am more judged for doing it because of my past and I am open about my past. If it was someone else or someone who had lost weight then they would be admired and congratulated for it. But for me I am just told that it's good genes or because I am skinny.... I think if people want to post abs photos sure they can, I mean I do it so I can't be hypocritical and say it's wrong. But I think it's up to the individual and follow to decide whether they want to follow someone or not because the person who posts things isn't going to stop doing that. There are many accounts I've stopped following because I don't like what they postad that's fine, many people stop following me because they don't like what I post... that's social media.

      I think everyone is affected by the fitness trends and having abs, I'm open about the fact that a few years ago I did have an obsession with wanting visible abs but I felt pretty shit trying to achieve that goal. My goal now isn't abs or having super muscles, but I love flexing, I like looking and feeling strong and there is nothing wrong with that :)
      Try to judge me for who I am now, not just because of my past!

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    2. And I understand your point, I'm not offended :) it's perfectly fine to wonder and to ask!

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    3. Thank you for your answer!
      I don't see why? Except getting compliments of your body? You could rather upload a picture of your ear, or why just the stomach?
      "If it triggers people then they shouldn't follow those accounts." Well, do you even remember how it is to have an ED? Some people are so sick that they really don't know what's best for them, they just do as ana tells them.. At mando you weren't even allowed to read these kind of blogs or watch that kind of tv-shows right? There is a reason for that. Well I don't know, I just don't agree with you on this question. I mean sure if you show it to some friends, you have the right to do that, but I would be more careful since there are so many people that follow you who are sick or in recovery.. :/ They need to see that there is more in life than just food, training, abs and protein. I don't mean to judge you, but I actually really don't see the point in posting those kind of pictures, especially not on a site where there are so many people in recovery :p

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