Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

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Friday, February 6, 2015

Answer - telling a partner about your past

hey izzy
i would like to ask if you will tell A about your past (anorexia etc) but just not the blog and wondered what your take is on relationship and telling one's partner about the past ?:) so exited to hear about your relationship and happiness!

Thank you so much!! :)
  I dont know i might tell him one day, whether its a conscious decision i make or it just happens... i mean i almost told him about my suicide attempts the previous day but i felt... he just isnt ready to hear that. So im not sure, but i can say right now i amnt comfortable telling him. I also feel its not necessary either... not everything needs to be told, but also its my decision to make.  

I think whether you want to tell your partner about your history of eating disorder or mental disorders is up to you... if its the past then whether its important to tell them or not is a decision you should make. If you feel it doesnt make a difference whether they know or not then you dont necessarily have to tell them. However if you are getting serious with someone and are currently struggling with someone then i think its better to tell the person because they will realise that you have some type of food or exercise issues anyway. So its better to tell them that you are struggling with anorexia/bulimia/binge eating/orthorexia/EDNOS etc... no they might not understand, but they can try to support you and help you.
  Whether it makes the whole relationship more complicated or not depends on how your partner reacts... The problem of course with telling your partner that you are struggling with food problems is that they can either 1) start letting you control your food and allowing you to use your behaviours just to feel comfortable or 2) begin pushing you too much where you crack because you cant cope with all the pressure and the relationship falls apart because its too many challenges at once... and  none of those are so good.
  But having a partner who helps you and supports you and makes you face your fears, that can be really good :)
I mean from just these few weeks ive become more spontaneous where i am not planning so much... apart from of course planning when i will meet A, but then we sort of decide what we will do then.... but he has started planning more... hahah. He was/is(?) the type of person who doesnt plan at all... but now he has started doing that. So he has influenced me to be more free and just do whatever and whenever and he has started planning more :)

Though that was a bit of a sidenote from the actual topic!!

But to summarize, whether i talk about my past or not, only time will tell. Though i dont feel i will as its in the past and even if my blog is a big part of my life and i wont stop blogging (not that i have planned anyway) i do want to work with helping people with their nutrition and exercise so he does know that... and i dont specifically want to work with people with eating disorders, but all types of people! Though as i am getting interview opportunities and things like articles and that, then i dont know how secret i can keep everything!!


  1. Don't you think it might be better to tell them if you're heading into a serious relationship? I mean especially if there will be days that you still have issues or if helping people overcome eating disorders is such a big part of your life? I think they'd like to know who you are and what made you who you are and what you stand for and believe in. Telling them isn't something to be ashamed of? They'll just have a better understanding of you and what you overcame and the strength you got from it. What if they do find out one day and feel like you should've trusted them and been open from the start? I think especially with mental disorders it's important that they know because it's a condition that has to be managed throughout your life and you may have relapses and bad days and your partner should understand why that is and what you're dealing with so that they can can support you and not judge you.

    1. If you are struggling then i think you should tell your partner but for my case i dont have bad days, not with my eating disoder... i think i am more open about talking about my depression because i can fall into a depression again and i think that might be important to say, because if i fall into a dark period and become anti social then i dont want that to ruin anything... but ill see how things go :)
      But its up to the person whether they want to tell their partner or not, some people are more open about it.. . i amnt so open about it with people close to me... but i am fine writing about my past and what i have been through, and sure if they ask.. say if he finds out my blog and asks then i can talk about it, but i dont think i will be the one to open up and just randomly talk about it! This is just me though.