Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

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Saturday, January 3, 2015

Just because someone has it worse than you doesn't mean you can't feel bad (repost)

Something which ive been thinking about is how, when we complain about something like stress in school, dont know what to wear, feeling sad you can often get the response, you shouldnt feel bad, there are people who have it worse than you.

And so....? What does that matter. I feel the way i way feel. And im allowed to feel that way... just because the kids starving in Africa (which is often the example people give me) have it tough, doesnt mean that my stress in school, and the way i feel doesnt matter. Or is not as bad or equal to someone else?

Its like, my sister has very bad acne so whenever i say i have a spot or two - and to me they feel and look  huge, but i know they arent. My sister always tells me, i cant complain because she has it worse.

Just like ive always been told, i cant complain or say that i feel fat, because im skinny.
Like how are those responses even valid? So... i cant feel happy on my birthday, or when i get a present, because someone else is happier than me?
  Why are we comparing our situation to someone else. Everyone is different, and everyone is entitled to feel a certain way.

I think this is one of the reasons why i so easily repress my feelings, and dont express how i am feeling or thinking, because its like ive always been told how i should feel, or shouldnt feel. People telling me to just smile when im sad. Or just calm down when im stressed with school....
  I hate being told what to do - this is one of the meanings with my Freedom tattoo. People deciding over me, making decisions for me. I hate it. People have done that all my life.... but now i have the power and control, and freedom to decide over myself.

But back to the topic. Often people who have ED's can think, im not sick enough or dont have an ED because i eat X calories, while other anorexics dont eat at all. Or, i dont workout as much/often as that person, im not sick enough.

But thats NOT how it works. You should NEVER compare yourself to others... people are different. Just because your lowest weight was X and another persons was Y, it doesnt make you less sick.
People need to stop telling others how they should feel, or telling them they shouldnt feel a certain way just because someone else has it worse. It doesnt help the actual problem that the person feels a certain way, its like putting a plaster over a cut. It doesnt heal the cut, it just covers it up.
   You need to fix the actual problem and why the person is feeling that way, not tell them to just not feel that way.

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