Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

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Monday, December 15, 2014

Why is it seen as wrong to love yourself

Ok.... as i see it, the negative comments have begun streaming in because someone or some people think it's wrong of me to take photos of myself? Or to workout often?  Or because I look a certain way.
  I could be wrong, but what I think is weird in society is that it's wrong for people to love themselves and think they look good? I am very happy in my body, that's why I take photos.  If I decide to post them, that's my business. This is the way I look. And yes my body has changed due to exercise I have never and won't deny that. Has my goal been to  change my body? No it hasn't.  If that was my goal I would be working out in a complete different way. But I like my body the way it is and I want to feel and be strong, but also to run fast and be flexible.  Those are my goals. But I'm not going to deny the fact that when I notice progress, whether it's strength, speed, endurance or a physical change... its nice to notice it. To see myself progress.
 
But the reason - what I think anyway - why people have a problem with me posting pictures is because of my past. You might think I shouldn't look the way I do or I shouldn't post pictures of myself because that is too egoistic. Too focused on my body. But you know what... I post pictures of myself because I think I look good. And what is so wrong with that? If my pictures trigger someone, then it's not my problem or fault. Then you need to work with your triggers. Work with loving yourself and not comparing yourself to others. Because there will ALWAYS  be someone skinnier or bigger than you. If you are the skinniest person then you are in a grave or almost there anyway.
   So instead of hating on others because they have the confidence to smile in a photo and show off their body. It's a person's choice to post pictures, and whether they want to take pictures of them selves in just pants and post it or of themselves in a bikini... that's their business. If the person trigger you, either work on your trigger or stop following them.
   You won't love yourself or.your body by hating others.

If you think I am hypocritical for posting a picture of myself in a bikini or flexing... well then that's not my business. If yo u are confident enough to do that, then go for it. And those of you think I try to make myself look skinner... no I don't.  Do I deny that u post the best picture?  No I don't.  When I have thousands of readers each day then I would prefer to not post a super ugly photo of me.... but for now I decided I would. 

So you get to see how I look when I'm not posing ;) Yes im human.... its just that i choose to post the best picture... not all of these :)



^^My lovely bloat on Saturday evening :)








^^Flattering... hahahah XD




^^Yes... that face ;) Just to add to the creepy!










In the next photos - i was still at Mando - an inpatient. So still underweight, but had my lovely bloated belly most of the time.
But that summer was the first time in 4 years thati had worn a bikini and actually been ok wearing it... even if i didnt like what i saw most days.











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Anyway... hopefully you can laugh at these pictures and realise that YES I AM ONLY HUMAN. AND YES, I CHOOSE TO POST THE BEST PICTURES BECAUSE I CAN. But i am also not -so.- afraid to show you that no, im not perfect. Nobody is!!!

So... anyway, with this post i mean to say. Stop hating me because you think i am egoistic or because you dont like how i look or whatever reason it is!!!

24 comments:

  1. Hey izzy! I'm so happy to rrad that you're doing well with coping with all those negative comments! Thus just shows how strong you are. And you're right it's normal that you only post your best photo's. Nobody wants to look weird on the internet, you never know where you'll end up! So I hope this post will show some people to not always compare to those "perfect" photos. Nobody is perfect!

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    1. :):) Exactly, i might take this down because i dont want these photos to end up somehwere... or say if im applying for a job and these photos come up, hahah!

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  2. I love these, I just had to smile and laugh at the 'creepy face' bloat pic, haha, you're awesome :D

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    1. Yup.... i looked crazy with bloating that day!

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  3. Haha I also have photos of my bloated stomach all over my phone. I love that you post a range of pictures to show that your body isn't just sunshine and rainbows. Also, I think the exercise looks great. And I know that's not the reason you do it, but it's always great when doing what you love treats your body well. It looks healthy. And I know for a fact that my HEALTH not weight is my priority. You look beautiful my love and I'm sorry you're being bombarded with negative comments.

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  4. You still look stunning! :) :) :)

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    1. hahahah :) Thank you!!! your comment made me smile!!

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  5. haha you made me smile ;)) you are such a brave girl izzy <3

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  6. I think your personality comes out with all the variety of photos! You are a very vibrant person now and it really shows-creeper face and all :)

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  7. Aww izzy I am so sorry that someone would actually comment like that!! You are perfect and SOS so pretty just the way you ae!! Don't change for anyone !!
    Lots of love and merry Christmas !!
    Livvy xoxox :)

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    1. Thank you :) well I'm lucky because I do have so much positivity around me and so many wonderful readers who post positive things!!! So I focus on that rather than the negatives :)

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  8. You're simply so fudging awesome, don't let the doubts creep in, there's no one out there who could tell you how to live your life better than yourself. People around you must be so proud of who you grew up to be, so trust them and their words, not those who'll always look up for the one thing to bring happy people down. Cheers. - C.

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    1. Thank you πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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  9. I think that there is nothing wrong if you want to post best looking photos of yourself, we all do that, We choose our facebook, instagram pictures before we post it, and that should be totally ok.
    I wonder if the person who were critical about you flexing or posting beautiful pictures of yourself is actually posting no posed weird pictures of herself in any social network?!
    Ok, i just wanted to say that who doesnt pose in the picture ?:D

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    1. Very true!! :) people chose the photos they want to publish and there shouldn't be a problem with that!

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    2. This is 'critical person', I don't post pictures on social networks as I don't feel the need for random people's approval ;)

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  10. Izzy, you are such an inspiration!! <3 I think it is great how positive you are about your own appearance. And this post most definitely proves that you are incredibly strong as well as beautiful, Izzy. It takes alot to accept your own body..But if you choose to do so, and embrace rather than hate the way you look...why shouldn't this be seen as a positive rather than a negative thing? Everyone has their own imperfections and flaws. But equally, every body is beautiful in their own unique way.
    Thank you so much for this, Izzy!! You are so amazing <3 and it reminded me that I'm not the only one who gets bloated ;) you look gorgeous in all of these pics Izzy and I am simply filled with admiration for your courage and positivity! xxx

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    1. Thank you!! :) and very true what you wrote!

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  11. I'm in the middle of a second recovery, after a bit of a relapse this year and I want to thank you so much for posting pictures that show bloating is totally normal. I've been a bit stressed out about how my stomach looks and wondering that if it is normal, and now I know it totally is! Even though deep down I knew it was.

    In regards to those negative people, there is such an abundance of information out on the internet, they often pick and choose what they want to believe, despite scientists still not understanding a lot about the human body. There are numerous studies that will have contradicting results, and trust me from someone who studied statistics at university, results can be skewed to support a certain hypothesis.

    I also want to say how much I love your blog and your point of view. It's really refreshing and seeing you with a beautiful smile on your face warms my heart. So Izzy keep up what you are doing and make sure to do what ever makes your happy as long as you keep safe. From someone who has wasted too many years worrying about what they look like and what others think you deserve to be happy and live your life the way you want.

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    1. Thank you so much. Stay strong and focus on getting better and healthier, because it is worth it!

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  12. These posts really help, Izzy. Thank you so much. You are gracious and kind and generous and have a beautiful heart.
    I am permanently bloated, I think I probably have the kind of genes that mean the weight just sits on my stomach, even before I eat, and then it just gets worse. I *never* look the way you do in the photos you usually post, and it is so reassuring to see these ones. Thank you so much.
    Of course I realise it doesn't matter in the end. And there are more important things in my life. All the same... Thank you.

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