Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

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Sunday, December 14, 2014

Dwelling on negativity simply contributes to its power

Wow.... where do i start? hahah
  My post on Saturday sparked alot of reactions and comments. Not what i had been expecting! It was a bit like....*Grab a bowl of popcorn and start watching the drama* hahah. I only checked my blog once during Saturday so i didnt really see all the drama until i logged onto my blog again on Sunday morning and saw all the comments. And reading through all of them at first i was like... wow, ok. And then by the end.... i just thought it was comical. It feels like its one or two people who seem to hate me for some reason and are taking out their negativity and hate on here.... its a pity as i want this blog to be positive and helpful. Not negative. Hence why i was doing my positive challenge for the week.... (And i will do the 6th and 7th day this week... :))

During the past day... yup, my blog break was short! I realised i love blogging too much, that i wanted to write about my day. I wanted to write my advice posts... and that is why i am back to blogging. My blog pauses are always like 24 hours or something ;) its not even a pause its just a .... im busy sort of thing. But i wasnt busy, i just needed time to think.

On my blog i only post the things i want to post. So there are other things which i dont post about, hence why i felt it became too much with the negativity. But like someone commented, This is a public blog. People can post whatever they want, and they can.... but that doesnt mean i have to read or agree with those comments. So from now on i am going to delete any negative comments and i will try as much as i can to resist commenting back.... You might have noticed i like to comment back to negative comments - but that just gives them a reaction. So instead, im not going to do that.

Now.... you might be thinking. Wow She is such a hypocrite and egoistic, all she wants is to be praised and told she is amazing. No... i have never once told people to comment and tell me im amazing, thats not even my purpose of my blog. I want to help others, and helping others doesnt involve negativity... unless its like looking back on my past and then shining some reflection on it from now!

So... im back to blogging! I do love it so dont want to give it up!!! And i'll just see how it goes from here :)







38 comments:

  1. I hope (and think!!) that u are strong enough to ignore those (few) comments that are negative. The thins is that these comments aren´t just negative - they are totally ridiculous as they aren´t productive at all. Negative comments aren´t always a bad thing as long as they are to the point and actually about the topics which you address.

    It also seems like these comments are coming from one person alone, maybe two. Don´t let 1-2 ppl ruin anything - cause there are so many more ppl that love you and your blog.

    When I first read your blog, years ago - I too had a few thought about how easy it is for you, and how privileged yu are, BUT as I´ve read more and more this last year I´ve realised that thats not the case at all... You are so incredibly strong. I almost started crying when I read your posts about CF - wow! How is that being spoiled and privileged!?!

    I think you are amazing - really! =)
    Keep blogging, if that os what YOU want. And seriously... try and ignore that idiot that does´t have anything more important to do than harass you. Haters gonna hate - and all that :)

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    1. I have said before that i accept constructive critisizm, to improve my blog and such but when I get direct messages telling me that i am still sick/a hypocrite/lying etc then i do take it a little personally as i feel that my blog is still a very personal thing and that really only a small amount of my life is posted on here. So when the critisizm is towards me and not about say that i wrote something wrong or the facts were wrong then its a little different than constructive critisizm.

      Hmmm, im sure i can give off that vibe or image that i am privaleged or that im lucky that i got to go to treatment when so many other people dont. But treatment doesnt automatically mean you become healthy. And also there have been alot of struggles with my family and financial problems in the past few years... though they arent really things i mention either!!

      Sorry, my reply was so long, hahah! Kind of off topic as well. But thank you so much :):)

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  2. So glad you've decided to come back! I'm sure there are many others who feel the same :). You have no idea how much your blog has helped me and I'm glad that you're able to look pass the negativity and continue to do what you love :)

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    1. Thank you!!! :)
      If you ever want me to write about any certain topics or posts, just let me know!

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  3. I am really happy that you have decided to continue blogging!! It was sort of a great shock reading that you wanted to stop yesterday, though I do understand your reasons. But it was a big relief to come to your Blog today and see that you have actually written a post again!! :) I'm glad you're back and I want you to know that no matter what some negative-thinking ppl say- you are awesome just the way you are!!
    Greetings from Germany ;)
    Jana :)

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    1. Thank you :) I love blogging, so couldnt stop!!

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  4. :) I think many people would agree with me Izzy, we all missed you for your (short ;) ) blog break! I am so glad you are back too and you were definitely right in saying that being positive is one of the top 5 things you are good at ;) I'm looking forward to commencing with the positive challenge :)
    there is absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever in the way you are choosing to approach the negative commenting. It's hard to not respond when people write stuff like that but you're right, whoever it is is just looking for a reaction and the best thing to do is just ignore them. You are an incredible person Izzy and nothing they say is going to change that :)x

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    1. Ohh yeah im going to try to do day 6 and 7 this week :)
      And thank you!! I feel that if i comment back its just going to lead to a long debate in the comments and i just dont have time or energy for that, so its better to just ignore it.... :)

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    2. :) yayyy. :) exactly Izzy, it'll give you more time to focus on the positive and writing what you want and enjoy, rather than feeling pressured to read and respond to comments like that. <3 xxx

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  5. So I read these posts chronologically and I start from the bottom up. With that being said I read your last post and got really sad:( and now im like phew! Shes still blogging :p Haha I think this shows just what kind of person you are and how strong you are. Even if you were to stop though it still shows your strength! Personally I cant really deal with much criticism so thank you for showing me that you can ignore it and a few people will always disagree with you.

    I hope you have a great day and that your project goes well, along with all of the other stuff going on in your life :) I know that sometimes even little comments can trigger feelings of being overwhelmed and such.
    Hannah:)

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  6. YEEEEEEEEEEEU PARTY!!!!!!!!

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  7. You are strong and so brave. The haters are gonna hate, you just gotta shake it off!! Glad to see you are back. I would have very much missed reading your blog.
    Thank you izzy!!

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  8. TACK OCH LOV!!!! SKULLE SKRIVA DIREKT ATT NEEEEJ, DU SLUTAR INTE BLOGGA, du är ju bäst och ingen avundsjuk typ ska få stoppa dig!!! låt dem inte vinna, visa dem!! <3

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    1. <3 TACK SÅ MYCKET!! Din kommentar gjorde mig såå glad!!

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  9. WE LOVE YOU IZZY!!!

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  10. WELCOME BACK IZZIE !!! You keeping on blogging will be part of my 3 positive things happening today ! :D

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  11. Aaaaaaaaw *_* Izzy this really made my day! :) I feel so happy you decided not to stop blogging :) I this morning already had started writing a post on my blog about how sad I feel by the thought of you stopping your blog ;) Hahaaaa now I can´t publish it of course, but I am so glad about that !!! :) So keep it up the way you are always doing, because you are such an inspiration for all of us! Don´t let yourself get down by them, you are worth so much more! ;) Lots of love from Germany xxx

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    1. Naaw thats so sweet!! And thank you :)

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  12. I thought that you are not able to quit blogging and i am really happy that i was right :)

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    1. I love blogging!!! Just one day away made me realise that - again!

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  13. I am so happy to read this!! Thank you for coming back and a big hug :))

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  14. ;) :) :) :) ;) :) :) :) ;) :) :) :) xxx

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  15. so so happy you have decided to carry on blogging! :) :)

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  16. So nice to have you back already!
    Christine

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    1. my break wasnt so long... but i realised i really love blogging, so i didnt want to stop :)

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  17. Its so nice to see so many positive and supportive comments :) I want to comment on your last post but couldn't at that moment so ill just comment here. Its hard not to think and reply to negative comments but I've done that several times and when its online, at least with me, it didn't work. Im so happy you're back and focusing on the positive :)
    Hope everyone has a lovely day!! :)
    Olivia

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  18. I know I'm extremely late to comment but I've only just caught up on posts. So yay!! I love your blog izzy! Ignore the haters as I can't tell you how much you've helped me :)

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