It will get better if you make it better

I get alot of questions and emails everyday where people tell me that they feel fat and don't like the way they look hate the way they live their life or want to change.  Or even ask when it gets better.  I often write, it will get better. Which is true,  but also. ... it won't get better until YOU make it better. Recovery isn't just about gaining weight or in some people's cases having to lose weight in a healthy way. But it's about changing your thoughts and mindset as well as learning healthy eating habits.
 
But the change towards the better has to come from YOU. I can't tell you that you're not fat or that you have to so this and this...or that you have ro choose recovery. You have to choose if for YOU. You have to change your thoughts and make it better. It's not enough to just wish or to write or hope that it gets better.  Unfortunately you don't just magically wake up and are healthy,  but it's a constant battle of facing your fears. BEING STRONGER THAN YOUR EATING DISORDER. There is no other way. Either you are stuck in the hell you live in day in and day out until you die or you fight for recovery and you keep fighting until you are recovered

But YOU have to make changes and fight. Do things that scare you. Know that it can get better if you want it to.

But then you have to be prepared that it will get tough before it gets better.

Living a life with an eating disorder isn't living. You need to REALISE that gaining weight and eating isn't the worst thing out there. If you spend your life terrified of eating then there will be alot of things you miss out on. You will spend your life scared, anxious and feeling guilty.

There is MORE TO LIFE than body image.