Life without Anorexia

My motto is
'Dont let the sadness of your past & the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present'

My life at the moment is completely different to how it once was. I spent 5 years sick with anorexia nervosia and depression as well as struggling with self harm and overexercising. I spent 2 years in different treatment centres.
And since 2012 i have been declared healthy from my eating disorder.

I have been blogging for 7 years, and my whole journey is written in my posts. I now represent healthy and happiness. I want to show anyone struggling that it is possible to recover, no matter how hard it may seem.

I now blog about recovery, my life, veganism and positivity!

If you have any questions leave them in the comment section as i am much quicker at answering there, otherwise you can always send an email: lifewithoutanorexia@hotmail.com

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Sunday, September 14, 2014

How to stay motivated with life

One of my favoureite quotes is Life is like a roller coaster, you can either scream every time you hit a bump or you can throw your hands up in the air and enjoy it.


Because the truth is... life is not a walk in the park. Its not just flat ground all the way ahead, but there are ups and downs... somedays you might feel like you are walking backwards, other times you feel like you are being pushed forward or even racing forward. Othertimse you come to a crossroad and don't know what to do.

Staying motivated with life is hard, there are times you want to give up. Like ive mentioned before i can easily get depressed, want to give up on life and begin thinking of suicide. Also, depression runs in my family (if you can even say that?). But i have learnt that staying positive is key. To not let that little negative voice inside your head control you.

In every situation, there is something both positive and negative. Sometimes the positve is very far fetched, almost impossible to see. Such as, if you are homeless with no money... very hard to see the positives in that. But then maybe you can try to think that, now you have a chance for something new. To show that you are stronger than the awful events that have happened to you. That you can pull through this and become stronger.
  I know, im the type of person which many people want to punch in the face bceause i seem so positive. But i don't like sounding or being negative. Because a negative mind leads to a negative life.


So how to stay motivated with life, to keep living even when things are tough?
Realise that there is more to life than just this.... So you just got fired? You got an F on your test? You need to move apartment? You have money problems?
  Well there is more to life than this.... if you failed a test. Thats ok, there are more tests in your life. You didnt get the job you wanted or you got fired? Well then you can apply for a new job, a better job. Get new experiences. You broke up with your partner? Got divorced? That happens, its awful.. it breaks your heart, you don't see the point in living. But will giving up really solve the problem? No it won't. You might not want to think of it now, but there is more love out there.... there are people who support you, there are new people you will meet in the future. But if you give up, you wont ever meet them.
  Just like with adventure and new experiences... this one event, or even this continuous amount of negative events that happen in your life. This is just for now... Things CAN get better.


Dont let one thing, one event or even one comment or person bring you down. Instead, rise up. Be taller and stronger than whats trying to bring you down.

Change your thoughts. Think positive. This isn't easy, but it will really help. Instead of letting everything bring you down, instead of just thinking negative all the time. Try to think positive...t hink atleast 3 positive thoughts everyday. Make it a habit.

Change your life.
  If you aren't happy with the way you are living, then change it. You always have the option to make a change... are you tired of your life? Tired of living? Well what is it that is so awful? Is it people in your life, is it your situation? Is it your job? Change something if it brings you down. Maybe you hate your job and you decide to quit. Happiness might not come right away because suddenly you are out of a job, but it will come later when you start doing a job you love and realise that the job you did before just brought you down. It gave you too much stress or your co-workers were mean to you etc


The most important thing is to know that things can and will get better. But if you give up, you dont give them a chance to.

I also like to think - even if it sounds cliche - that everything you go through in life makes you the person you are. Guides you towards something in life. But also, you aren't dealt with something you can't handle. This event will change you as a person, change your life... but can change you in a positive way if you keep fighting. You learn something, grow as a person.
 That can bea  positive thing to think about in those awful situations or times!

Hopefully this helps a little, to those of you who feel you need motivation to keep going, whether its with recovery or just in life!

3 comments:

  1. thank you for such heartfelt advice, Izzy! I found it really touched something within me. For when I decided to try and fight my ED, I automatically assumed that this would immediately bring an end to all my problems and that everything would at once be easy and happy for me. In reality that doesn't happen of course, and even now that I am recovering, I still get really down sometimes, about the smallest little things - and get thoughts like "I wonder if the world would be better off without me? Is there really any point of life? Wouldn't I be happier if I just didn't exist?" Your positivity is really inspiring and gives me so much hope - thanks a million :) x

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    1. I am glad my post helped. I used to think that way as well.... because i mean, after you have had an eating disorder you just want to feel happy... you want life to be perfect. But that's not always how it is. But think, if you can take yourself through an eating disorder, then you can survive anything!!! And little things really shouldnt bring you down - not for long anyway :)

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    2. definitely izzy:) i hope that getting through it will make me a stronger and more mature person. and i can now look back when i do get down and think how much better things are now then they were back then... when I was sick and tried to starve myself at every opportunity. Those were dark days and I know with certainty that in choosing recovery things will get better and that this will make me and my loved ones so much happier.
      Please can I just share with you and your readers this little quote my mam found for me today? :) : "Life is too short to be anything but HAPPY. Falling down is part of life. Getting back up is living". This really is so true for everyone! Hope you had a lovely day Izzy :) xxx

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