Does having an ED yourself put a higher risk of developing an ED on your kids? Just wondering. Because I hear that it has to do with genes too.
hmmm, ive heard of that before that eating disorders have to do with genes, thats why when some people diet they can end up with an eating disorder whilst others can go on low calorie diets all their life but never develop an eating disorder... whether thats true or not, im not so sure.
THIS article talks about eating disorders and genetics.
Whether you having an eating disorder in the past (hopefully you will be recovered when you have kids), whether that affects or is passed onto your kids or not i dont know. But i know that behaviour will have alot to do with how your children feel and how they behave and think around food and body image. If you are still half sick and constantly go on diets or only have low calorie foods at home or excessively exercise or say bad things about food or your body, this will pass onto your children. That doesnt mean they will get an eating disorder, but it can affect their thoughts and body image.
For ME personally i think my children will have a really great mum (XD). I will teach them self love, to not care about the weight or scale. To hopefully not be affected by media. To have a balanced diet...The focus will of course be whole foods and home cooked meals. But buying a pizza or chocolate now and again will be no problem because i promote balance!!
So either your kids will get a healthy and balanced message passed onto them or you will pass on your ED thoughts and behaviours... but thats up to you and how you decide to raise them/behave around them!
How long did it take you to actually recover? I know you went to several clinics and all that but that doesn't necessarily mean you were recovering which in your case was true. How long after you actually made the decision to try to recover?
I spent more than a year in different clinics (i.e from my first inpatient time, but i had spent c.a 4+ months going to a therapist and different doctors) before i decided to actually recover and from when i decided that it took about 1,5 years for me to fully recover mentally and physically :) And that time of course includes my relapse at the start of 2012.