I often get asked by people via mail and also my family who know that i blog whether i get affected by helping others, listening/reading to others problems.
And i can honestly and directly answer no. If i felt that i was getting negatively affected by helping others or by having my email open for questions then i would simply not reply or state that my email was no longer a way to contact me. But that thought has never actually crossed my mind. I love helping people!! Some emails/questions are harder to answer and take more time to think, others are just quick answers.
The times where I feel down and negative, dealing with my own problems. Or if i just don't have time or motivation it takes longer to reply to emails or comments. But i often state it here on the blog then just so people don't think I'm ignoring them. Because I know how it feels to sit and wait for a reply and you don't really know if they got the mail or not or ignoring you etc
I find I have to have the right motivation to sit and help people, I can be feeling angry or sad because then you just think about your own problems.
I've always been a natural helper and advice giver. I've always been the person chosen to help in school or at home. I've also been the person people come to for advice, my parents, siblings, friends. Whether face to face, online or by telephone. Whether ive been in the situation myself or not I've been told that i give good advice. I've never really understood it. I'm the friend who has only had 1 boyfriend but can give really good relationship advice. I just sort of tell things as they are and how I see them. I like to look at different perspectives but also state the consequences of actions. But also I think the reason I am seen as such a good advice giver is that i dont judge. And this is very important. Everything is kept private and i listen to your words and give the advice i think would help.
It's like i was born a therapist. Though this is just what I do in my free time ;) hahah But i do like it! I get satisfaction knowing i help people and also getting thank you comments and mails makes me so happy! It's like giving me a star, telling me I'm good!!! ^-^
I like helping people so until the day I don't like it, or I feel that it brings me down i will keep doing it ;)